tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-218837782024-03-17T23:02:18.195-04:00blah blah blogJust a bit of commentary about nothing in particular.darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.comBlogger1223125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-254186700791466242022-04-21T21:42:00.003-04:002022-04-21T21:42:21.088-04:00Random Commuting Thoughts #2Why does the Tesla logo look like a uterus?<br><br>darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-11455261485873594832022-04-19T18:00:00.002-04:002022-04-19T18:00:00.171-04:00Random Commuting Thoughts (a likely series)<br />
Now that I'm commuting again, I am listening to the radio a lot more -- mostly
the 80's station. Today, the song <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4N1iwQxiHrs" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">"Your Love"</a> by The Outfield came on. I really
like the song, but when I listened to the lyrics, they are very cringey. Here is
my analysis:<br /><br />
"Josie is on a vacation far away." Wait, what? Your girlfriend is out of
town?<br /><br />
"You know I like my girls a little bit older." Cringe.<br /><br />
"I just want to use your love tonight." Double cringe.<br /><br />
"I don't want to lose your love tonight." Ick.<br /><br />
"Stay the night but kep it under cover." Meaning don't tell anyone. Double
ick.<br /><br />
"As you're leaving please would you close the door?" Now get out.<br /><br />
So basically, he cheats on his girlfriend with a younger friend, keeps telling
her that it is not serious, but wants her to still love him anyway. Hard
pass.<br /><br />
darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-24455923169341028902020-12-04T22:31:00.002-05:002020-12-04T22:31:55.177-05:00Fist Full of Cream CheeseToday was a mostly shitty day. It was gray, rainy, and cold —and our heat wasn’t working right. I could barely get the little guy out of bed to get him to pre-K in time - although he did manage to provoke his big sister enough at breakfast that she shoved him hard enough to make him cry. <div><br /></div><div>When I got home from school drop-off, it took me five tries to be able to log in to work - first the internet and then my card reader refused to cooperate. <div><br /></div><div>For most of the day, the bigger kid and I were stuck at home with just a space heater and the dog to keep us company. The glitchy internet was making her grumpy. She fell off her drum stool and hurt herself twice. Oh yeah -she’s been sitting on a drum stool to do her school work because her ADHD requires something that either spins or bounces.</div><div><br /></div><div>My husband got home in the late afternoon, just as she was finishing up school. While I was doing the Friday homework check, he went down to the icy basement to see if he could fix the furnace. (He did, at least temporarily!) </div><div><br /></div><div>After that, I was working and the kid was in the other room, or so I thought. My husband came upstairs, and I hear this exchange:</div><div><br /></div><div>“What are you eating?”</div><div>“Nothing.”</div><div>“What’s on your face?”</div><div>“Nothing.”</div><div>“Is that...a fist full of cream cheese?”</div><div>“I don’t want to talk about it.”</div><div><br /></div><div>This kid waited for us to stop paying attention and then decided to stick her filthy eight-year-old hand in the tub of cream cheese for a snack. Oh! But wait! Apparently it’s not the only time, because the cream cheese has been mysteriously disappearing for the past few weeks.</div><div><br /></div><div>She was pouty the rest of the day -and every time my husband and I look at each other, we start laughing and making jokes about fists full of cream cheese. </div><div><br /></div><div>When I went to tuck the kid in, she told me never to talk about it again. Whatever. Like I’m not going to tell her future husband this story. In fact, right now I am fully hoping that, when I’m old(er) and on my deathbed, I grab her hand, look in to her eyes, and faintly whisper, “fist full of cream cheese,” before I finally and blissfully croak. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /><br /><br /></div></div>darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-59283001300633740332020-10-11T17:30:00.001-04:002020-10-11T17:30:51.103-04:00The Velvet Painting<br /><br />I found myself telling this story on Facebook earlier, and not only is it delightful to me, but it also may be true -- so I thought that I should write it down here for the internet. <div><br /></div><div>After my mother graduated from high school and did some secretarial school, she decided that she loved to travel. For a few years, in her early 20s, she was living in Los Angeles -- it was the early 1960s. At some point, my grandparents, aunt, and uncle came out to visit her, and as part of their travels, they went down to Tijuana. </div><div><br /></div><div>The Tijuana trip is something of a family legend. Part of the story that I heard involved my uncle (who was maybe 10 or 11 years old) trying to practice haggling with street vendors. Another part of the story involved the whole family going to the restaurant where the Caesar salad was invented. But the story always ended with the part where my mother saw a beautiful velvet painting of a handsome long-haired man. She decided she had to have it -- and went back to buy it on their way out of town. </div><div><br /></div><div>It was, after all, the 1960s.</div><div><br /></div><div>My mother hung the painting up in her apartment in California, and then when she moved back to New York, she hung the picture up in her apartment there too. She might have even moved apartments a few times after that -- I always think of her as something of a nomad when she was young.</div><div><br /></div><div>Eventually, she was living somewhere on the Upper East Side, with the picture hanging on the wall, when one of her childhood friends came to visit. Her friend was Catholic, and asked my mother why a nice Jewish girl would have a picture of Jesus hanging up in her apartment.</div><div><br /></div><div>My mother had absolutely NO IDEA. </div><div><br /></div><div>And then, the story ended with my mother giving her friend the painting of Jesus and it hanging in her friend's house for many years. My mother often told the story after we left that friend's house, and I never remembered to look for the painting or ask her friend if it was true. One of these days, maybe I will remember. Or maybe it's just better as a legend.</div><div><br /></div>darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-64689857415798065462020-09-30T23:09:00.011-04:002020-09-30T23:26:23.730-04:00A Stone for Ruth Bader Ginsburg<div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{fa331d16-f0ec-4b54-a2e2-3fb92c9fbe2f}{167}" paraid="219677899" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">It’s been almost 13 years since my mother died. One of the things that haunts me to this day is a conversation we had shortly before she died. It was the beginning of the 2008 election cycle, and I was in my very early 30’s—already a lawyer, but before I was married or had kids. My mother and my grandmother were excitedly talking about voting for Hillary Clinton in the primary. I told her I was going to vote for Obama. She asked me how I could do that, as a woman and as a feminist, and I blithely told her I was post-feminist. 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font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">In the present day, in the midst of a pandemic, I work from home and supervise my eight year old during her remote third-grade education. My four year old was home with us for the first few months, but he just started attending pre-kindergarten in-person, at a small daycare about a mile away. I have an office in the basement, but we have all decamped to the dining room table, so I can keep her on task. My husband goes in to work each day, but he does most of the cooking.</span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{fa331d16-f0ec-4b54-a2e2-3fb92c9fbe2f}{193}" paraid="966967919" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"><span class="NormalTextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-parastyle="p3" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"></span></span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{fa331d16-f0ec-4b54-a2e2-3fb92c9fbe2f}{195}" paraid="873069781" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">I spend a lot of time on conference calls, and sometimes my mind wanders. I keep thinking about whether Ruth Bader Ginsburg would have homeschooled her kids. I’m pretty certain that she and Marty would have figured out an equitable distribution of labor. Instead, I’m passive-aggressively ignoring the pile of laundry that needs to be washed and the other pile that needs to be folded. Maybe if it sits there long enough, my husband will understand how jealous I am that he gets to go in to an office and talk to other adults face-to-face, while I’m on my 100th WebEx of the month, watching my daughter pretend to pay attention to a virtual P.E. class while using safety scissors to cut up the dining room tablecloth. </span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">***</span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; 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This is not what I thought adulthood would be like. I add more snacks to my shopping cart.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{fa331d16-f0ec-4b54-a2e2-3fb92c9fbe2f}{223}" paraid="644686271" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{fa331d16-f0ec-4b54-a2e2-3fb92c9fbe2f}{225}" paraid="1135898280" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">***</span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">It is before 7am. My son comes in to my room, asking to come in to my bed for a cuddle. He used the word please, so I assent. He then loudly asks why his dad is still </span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">there: “Is it a stay home day?”</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">They are all stay home days for me.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">It must be a weekend because my husband has not left for work. So I say yes, and tell my son to be quiet or leave. A few minutes later he shouts that he has to go poop, so now we are all awake. Another </span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"><span class="NormalTextRun SpellingErrorV2 BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-charstyle="s2" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: inherit; background-image: url("data:image/svg+xml;base64,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"); 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I did not appreciate the freedom I had. I did not consider all of the predecessors that paved the way for me to get to pick my own destiny; to be both a fairly successful attorney and a fairly successful parent. 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My husband is on the family room sofa, watching TV while playing some shooting game on his phone. The kids are already in the dining room on their devices. They each have a C</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"><span class="NormalTextRun SpellingErrorV2 BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-charstyle="s2" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: inherit; background-image: url("data:image/svg+xml;base64,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"); background-position: 0% 100%; background-repeat: repeat-x; border-bottom: 1px solid transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;">hromebook</span></span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> and a Kindle; my daughter also has a school laptop and an old iPhone. I have a work computer, a personal laptop, a work iPad, a personal iPad, a work phone, a personal phone, and a monitor. There are half-broken headphones and earbuds all over the place.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{28}" paraid="1813454687" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"><span class="NormalTextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-parastyle="p3" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"></span></span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{30}" paraid="1310418033" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">There are at least two more computers in the basement, and my husband has a laptop in our bedroom. How many computers does a four-person household need? The answer takes advanced math.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{36}" paraid="199823438" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"><span class="NormalTextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-parastyle="p3" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"></span></span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{38}" paraid="119750203" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">There is an old iPad in the kitchen, running a bunch of kids educational apps. The kids in question barely use it, but I keep hoping that one day, it will magically teach my son to read. If only it could teach him to wipe his own ass.</span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{42}" paraid="1847005761" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; 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I requested an absentee ballot weeks ago. When it finally came in the mail, I quietly said a little thank you to all of the women that made this possible, lest something else happen. 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My half-Cuban husband was in the kitchen making latkes, when we were startled out of our complacency with the news of RBG’s death. I sat down on the sofa to watch the news.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{64}" paraid="1179877832" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"><span class="NormalTextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-parastyle="p3" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"></span></span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{66}" paraid="212246583" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">My daughter asked me a question, but then, because she does not know how to sit, she somehow kicked me as I began to answer.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">Her toenail caught me squarely in the leg and I started to bleed—so I stopped talking. I spent most of the next few hours in stunned silence.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{76}" paraid="1868367664" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{78}" paraid="1592375524" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">***</span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">It is Sunday morning—I checked the calendar. I am making matzo meal pancakes, an old family recipe. It brings me comfort.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{90}" paraid="1084803726" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"><span class="NormalTextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-parastyle="p3" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"></span></span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{92}" paraid="644844632" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">For the past few weeks, my daughter has been binge-watching old episodes of the Kids’ Baking Championship. I cheerfully ask her if she wants to help me cook, and she barely lifts her head from her L.O.L. Surprise video on YouTube to growl. I ignore the disrespect. 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I somehow manage to stick my thumb in half of the egg yolks, shouting “Fuck!” or “Shit!” each time. 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{108}" paraid="1344508569" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">***</span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">A bit shy of four years ago, I took my then preschool-aged daughter to the elementary school down the street to vote for the first woman president. I wore my mother’s and grandmother’s jewelry, so that a piece of them could be with us. It did not go as planned. It never does.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{120}" paraid="2054027825" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">The pancakes are all gone in a flash. My son is crying because I deleted the shortcut to YouTube from his computer.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">There must be a reason that neither Sonia Sotomayor or Elena </span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{148}" paraid="1521537207" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">Later that day, we take a trip downtown to pay tribute to RBG. My husband suggested we leave flowers; instead I leave a stone. I am simultaneously steeped in traditions, and yet thoroughly independent of them. I am my ancestors’ wildest dream, for good and bad. And yes, I am a feminist, even though I forget it sometimes. It’s just so easy to forget the work of everyone who helped to clear the path for you when the path is still so fucking hard.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{148}" paraid="1521537207" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US">The signs and notes and flowers all over the west side of the Supreme Court take my breath away. More than a few of the offerings bring me to tears. A tiny little Jewish mother had the power to change the world—step by painful step, a little bit at a time, but backwards and in heels.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; 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I am aware. And I will keep up the fight: for you, for Nana, for RBG. But also, I will continue for my daughter, and maybe one day, her daughter. I get it now. I am not obligated to complete the work, but neither am I free to abandon it.</span><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"> </span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":0,"335559740":240}" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 13pt; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: white; clear: both; cursor: text; direction: ltr; font-family: "Segoe UI", "Segoe UI Web", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px; overflow: visible; padding: 0px; position: relative; user-select: text;"><p class="Paragraph BCX0 SCXW166792849" paraeid="{47e633ea-0fcf-4379-bb65-401aeb0fb28e}{176}" paraid="738692707" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; user-select: text; vertical-align: baseline;"><span class="TextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-contrast="auto" face="Calibri, Calibri_EmbeddedFont, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif" lang="EN-US" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-kerning: none; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-ligatures: none; line-height: 20.5042px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;" xml:lang="EN-US"><span class="NormalTextRun BCX0 SCXW166792849" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; background-color: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"></span></span><span class="EOP BCX0 SCXW166792849" data-ccp-props="{"201341983":0,"335559739":160,"335559740":259}" face="Calibri, Calibri_EmbeddedFont, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-user-drag: none; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 20.5042px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text;"> </span></p></div>darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-35763406310040260702020-09-29T17:31:00.002-04:002020-09-29T17:31:42.104-04:00Soundcheck<br /><br />Hello? Is this thing on? Check? Check?darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-3619223193733749152016-04-03T18:03:00.001-04:002016-04-03T18:03:21.517-04:00Phone numbers<br />
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The other morning, I was driving in the car with the baby asleep in the back seat -- yes, we had another baby -- and I wanted to call my husband. In that moment, I realized that I don't know his phone number off the top of my head. It made me laugh out loud that I couldn't think of his number or even our landline number, but I still remembered my mother's cell phone number.<br />
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Only, when I really thought about it, I couldn't remember her number. I do remember my grandmother's old phone number, and the phone number for our house in Florida, and my work and cell phone numbers. I even remember our phone number from the house in New Jersey when I was 12. But I can't remember my mother's number anymore. Over the last eight years, my brain left it behind. I guess it needed to free up space for details about pediatrician's appointments, preschool teachers' names, and what time we need to leave to be on time for gymnastics.<br />
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Also, when I think of it, I really do know my husband's number - it just takes me a minute. But really, what's the point when all I have to do is push a button and the phone dials for me?darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-26881765140713535562015-05-09T21:45:00.000-04:002015-05-09T21:47:39.542-04:00Schrödinger's babyFor a month, we were so completely elated; everything was about the future. But the end came, so fast. A drop of blood here and there. An inconclusive test. More blood, more tests, but no answers. The baby was both alive and dead at the same time.<br />
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The thing is, I knew, even before the phone rang. I could feel that something had shifted, ever so subtly. I sensed the hormone levels changing, even before the test said so. The second I heard that they couldn't find the fetal pole, I knew what it signified. Still, I kept clinging to a sliver of hope, wanting to believe in miracles.<br />
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darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-46034386892906080692014-10-15T22:15:00.001-04:002014-10-17T22:29:49.677-04:00Her Grandmother's Granddaughter<br>
Mom,<br>
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How I wish you could have met her. She reminds me so much of you -- she has blue eyes like yours, and her laugh is infectious. Her favorite color is pink. You would have seen the irony in that.<br>
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She loves to sing. We sing good morning to each other and we make up silly songs. Sometimes we sing the Frozen soundtrack at the top of our lungs in the car.<br>
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She loves to cuddle with me. In the evening, before bedtime, she curls up next to me on the couch. She talks a lot now. Sometimes she tells me about her day, or about what we are watching on TV.<br>
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We like to read books together. She likes to point at the pictures and tell me what she sees. Sometimes she asks what the word is, and then she repeats it in the cutest little tentative voice. It feels like she is learning 100 words a day.<br>
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When she wakes up too early, I take her in the big bed with me for a cuddle. I am instantly transported back, 30-plus years and a couple hundred miles, to the big bed in the house in New Jersey. I can still feel how much I was loved. If nothing else, I hope to pass that on.<br>
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We miss you every day, but especially today. Happy birthday.<br>
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(also posted at <a href="http://oliruebaby.blogspot.com/2014/10/her-grandmothers-grandaughter.html" target="_blank">the OliRue baby blog</a>)darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-81914449448564368672014-04-09T21:02:00.001-04:002014-04-09T21:03:13.448-04:00The LandlineIn the new house, we have a landline phone. Not that we really wanted or needed it -- after all, we live in a cellular world -- but the cable company gave it to us for free as part of our package. <div><br></div><div>And so, almost six years after I last used them, I found myself pulling phones out of a box. The one corded phone had old batteries in it, and so it had to be thrown out. Storing something away like that -- carelessly -- is so very unlike me. But I remembered why I didn't take the batteries out in the first place: I didn't want to lose the last caller ID from my mom. </div><div><br></div><div>It's gone now. </div><div><br></div><div>And I threw out the phone. My husband says that's because I'm not crazy. Sometimes I'm not so sure. </div>darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-38051260927046499922013-12-02T17:55:00.000-05:002013-12-02T17:55:00.070-05:00Thankful November, 17-30<br />
Since the last installment, we had a difficult two weeks. It started, as usual, with work and the horrible schedule where my husband works early mornings and weekends. Add to that the chaos of birthday/Thanksgiving/Hanukkah all at once, and on top of that, all three of us were sick at the same time.<br />
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Then I got the crazy call that a friend and former coworker was dying.<br />
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All that has made it extraordinarily hard to find things to be thankful for, but I've been trying. Ultimately, the hardest part was finding the time to write the words down. So here goes:<br />
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17. I am thankful for modern technology. I said before that I never, ever want to live without a washer and dryer. Add dishwasher to that list. I am so thankful to not have to do those chores by hand. And the computer and cell phone? I can't even think about how much easier they make my life.<br />
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18. I am thankful for pie.<br />
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19. I am thankful for the Trader Joe's jarred cranberry sauce. It was a definite upgrade over the canned variety.<br />
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20. I am thankful for my nephews and niece. I am looking forward to seeing all of them before too long. This year, I am extra thankful that my daughter is an age where she will get to have fun playing with her cousins. Many of my fondest childhood holiday memories involve times spent with my cousins; I can only hope that her memories are even better.<br />
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21. I am thankful for vacation days spent with my family.<br />
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22. I am thankful for going back to work after vacation -- because so much time off with a toddler hardly qualifies as such.<br />
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23. I am thankful for my daughter's school. They take such good care of her there. She really likes going, even on those days when she really doesn't want me to drop her off.<br />
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24. I am thankful for the many years that my mother woke me up at the crack of dawn to do Black Friday holiday shopping. It was exhausting, and at the time, I was your typical grumpy, frustrated, teenager -- but now, I am glad to have the memories of being her trusty sidekick.<br />
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25. I am even more thankful for the internet -- and thus, the fact that I never have to subject myself to the Black Friday hordes again.<br />
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26. I am thankful that most of my holiday shopping is already finished.<br />
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27. I am thankful for the birthdays that have passed, the experiences they've left behind, and the person that they've made me.<br />
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28. I am thankful for the birthdays yet to come.<br />
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29. I am thankful for my dad. He is crotchety; he is peculiar; he is anti-social. He is weird and strange, and occasionally funny, too. In some ways, he is a horrible parent and grandparent -- he is non-communicative and not very present or involved. But in the ways that are important, like being there when you need him and helping however he can, he still always manages to be a very good dad.<br />
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30. I am thankful for my husband. Each and every day, even when it takes all we have just to get through the chaos that is work and baby, I am always thankful that he's the person I chose to take this journey with. Everything is so much easier when the partner by your side is also your friend.darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-76595017999006282062013-11-16T23:07:00.000-05:002013-11-18T17:58:14.283-05:00Thankful November, 6-16<br />
6. I am thankful that my daughter has become a pretty good sleeper. Life is much better when your kid goes to sleep most nights without much of a fuss and then generally sleeps through the night. I do occasionally wish she woke up a bit later, but it seems like she's like her grandmother and great-grandfather (her namesake), and is a morning person.<br />
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7. I am thankful for my job. I am always busy and never seem to have enough time to get everything finished, but I really do like it most days.<br />
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8. I am thankful that, every night, when I come home from work, my daughter smiles, stops what she is doing, and runs up to me to give me the biggest, best hug in the world. I don't even mind that most of the time, she inadvertently rubs boogers or food all over my work clothes. The hug is that good.<br />
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9. I am thankful for books. They are, and always have been, my favorite
things. I do wish I had more time to read grownup books, though.
Around here lately, we're pretty much only reading children's books. As
a corollary, I am thankful that my daughter seems to have inherited my
love for books. Every night, we read a handful of books, but always end
with the same two. My husband and I know them by heart, and I think
the baby does too. She always laughs at one part where I yawn,
pretending to be a very sleepy cow.<br />
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10. I am thankful for the washer and dryer in my condo. I hope to never live in a place with community machines again.<br />
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11. I am thankful to be as old as I am and to still have a grandparent around.<br />
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12. I am thankful for being able to have a cleaning service come every other
week. I am also thankful that, for all those years that I didn't really
need it, I kept it up. Because, boy do we need it now.<br />
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13. I am thankful that my daughter makes me laugh every day.<br />
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14. I am thankful for Ikea. This morning, I took a quick trip down there to buy my daughter's big holiday present -- an easel. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, she really likes to color. She sits on the floor, with her markers or crayons, and sings to herself while hard at work on her masterpieces. Obviously an easel is the next step.<br />
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15. I am thankful that I get to take occasional weekend afternoon naps.<br />
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16. Right now, this minute, I am thankful for the little bit of quiet time to myself. Ordinarily, I'd be asleep, but I took a nap this afternoon, and as a result, am wide awake. But a little quiet time after my husband and daughter are asleep is the only reason I can catch up on this list. And read a little bit of a grown-up book.<br />
<br />darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-86196886332077775572013-11-05T11:11:00.000-05:002013-12-18T10:08:08.172-05:00Thankful November, number 5Today, I am thankful for living in a country where I have the ability to vote, even if I dislike the current state of the two-party system and most of their candidates.<br />
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I am equally thankful for the fact that, as of tomorrow, there will be no more election ads on television, at least for a little while.
darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-91189257389638240432013-11-04T19:27:00.000-05:002013-11-04T19:27:00.236-05:00Thankful November, numbers 1-4<br />
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At this point, I've come to terms with the fact that I'll probably never finish writing a novel -- particularly over the span of a <a href="http://nanowrimo.org/" target="_blank">NaNoWriMo</a>. I am very keenly aware that, at the rate that I've been writing, I'm not even likely to complete a <a href="http://www.blogher.com/novembers-nablopomo-here" target="_blank">NaNoBloPoMo</a> (or whatever it's called). But I can find many, many things to be grateful about this month, and so I will make an effort to post them. One for each day this month, just maybe not every day. And, of course, I'm starting late.<br />
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It's November 4th, so here are four: <br />
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1. This face.<br />
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2. The fact that my husband didn't make fun of me when I told him that I generally prefer Van Halen with Sammy Hagar and not David Lee Roth.<br />
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3. The caramel brulee latte at Starbucks.<br />
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4. Trader Joe's milk chocolate salted caramel butter cookies.<br />
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<br />darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-64243241635245294302013-05-12T22:01:00.001-04:002013-05-13T09:35:37.234-04:00Baseball shoes<br />
Yesterday, we took a family trip to the ballpark. The husband, the kid, and I dressed up in our team colors and went to our first game together this season -- our first game together since last year's playoffs.<br />
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I have a cut on my foot -- a blister from a pair of ballet flats that I wore to work last week -- so I tried to find a comfortable, supportive pair of shoes to walk around in, particularly since I was going to be carrying the baby in the Ergo all day. I settled on a pair of grey Pumas, old, but not too old. What that means is that I've owned them as long as I've lived in this condo, but I did not own them when I moved to DC from Florida. I'm certain that I have not had them for over 10 years, but I am also certain that they're more than 5 years old.<br />
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While we were on our way to the ballpark, I felt that there was something sticky on the bottom of my shoe. "Great," I thought. "Old gum."<br />
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We started walking, and the feeling went away. We walked around the stadium, fed the baby some gelato, and then, I went into the bathroom to wash my hands. For some reason, I looked down at my feet, and was astonished. My shoes were literally falling apart -- the sole had split into pieces and the padding was falling out in chunks. I was leaving a trail of sneaker bits behind me as I walked. It was worse than when I was living in London and the only pair of casual shoes I had with me were Chuck Taylors with the hole in the heel.<br />
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So, I did what any rational woman would do: I sent my husband to the gift shop to see if he could find me a solution. He came back with a pair of blue flip flops with red sequins. Team colors. Also: ostentatious and hideous. He also told me that they had black ballet flats, but that they cost $80.<br />
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I have the best, smartest husband. And now, I no longer have a pair of cute, grey Pumas, but I do have a pair of hideous, blue flip-flops with red sequins.<br />
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<br />darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-26244975270836096282013-02-07T21:54:00.003-05:002013-02-07T21:54:43.242-05:00Five Years<br />
I can't believe five years have passed since that day, that horrible, wretched day. But I'm having a hard time getting the words out this time. It feels like I've already said it, over and over again.<br />
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I still miss my mom, every single day. I look at my beautiful, amazing little daughter -- who has her grandmother's eyes -- and I am just so sorry that the two of them never got to meet each other. I hug the baby just a little bit tighter when I think about it. On the one hand, I want to shield her from such loss; on the other, I know that's not healthy for her or for me. I want her to be brave and strong, and you don't get that way if you're raised in a bubble.<br />
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And then I finally see that there's a silver lining, a small consolation prize from all of this crazy grief over the past five years: my mother's death made ME stronger. Maybe that's the last gift she gave me.darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-81126594918271197812013-01-08T19:07:00.000-05:002013-01-08T19:07:00.052-05:00New Year, Resolved.<br />
Before my husband and I got married, we discussed our vows, and agreed that the foundation of our marriage is that we both promise to try to not be an asshole to the other. When we looked in each other's eyes on the beach while repeating back the minister's words, that is what we meant. We may have said a lot of words, but that was our only promise. It's a promise that we can both keep.<br />
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That brings me to New Years' resolutions. I hate them for that very reason: they are promises that are not likely to be kept. <a href="http://mostboringblogever.blogspot.com/2011/01/simplification.html" target="_blank">I've said so before.</a> But every year, better judgment notwithstanding, there are always a few things that I promise myself that I am going to do better.<br />
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This year, there are three of them: (1) Be healthier; (2) Be better with money; and (3) Try not to accumulate things that I don't need.<br />
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There's some overlap. If we eat healthier, home-cooked meals, we are likely to save money. If I don't buy things we don't need, we will also save money. Still, all of this is a challenge.<br />
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My husband and I have been good over the past eight days. We've made healthy meals, gone out less frequently -- and ordered more salads when we have. I think I've eaten more vegetables in the past 8 days than in the past 8 months! And, other than a cute outfit for the baby (on clearance at Babies-R-Us!), a toy or two for her (now that she's almost 6 months, the toys are way better!), and some (clearance!) ornaments for our Pagan Winter Solstice Shrubbery, I haven't really bought anything that was not addressing some kind of immediate need. I mean, maybe we didn't need quite so many boxes of oatmeal...but they were on sale and we will eat it, sooner rather than later.<br />
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I'm also going to try two different approaches to save a little bit extra cash. In one savings account, I am going to save $1 per day, for a total of $365 (duh!). In another, I am going to save $1 the first week, $2 the second week, $3 the third week...and so on, for a grand total of $1378. Not sure yet what I'm going to do with that $1743, but I hear that college will be very expensive in 2030. (Sigh.)<br />
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Wish me luck.<br />
<br />darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-21726827065217786502012-12-21T18:02:00.002-05:002012-12-22T20:52:56.484-05:00Gasoline and MatchesMy heart broke last week when I heard about the elementary school shootings in Newtown, Connecticut. My daughter is the most precious thing in the world to me, and I can't imagine what it must have been like for these parents to send their babies off to school on a morning like any other, to only have them not come home again. I cry when I think about it. I cried again on Monday, when I dropped the baby off at her school and got a letter explaining the security protocol in the wake of the tragedy.<br />
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This morning, when the baby and I were leaving the condo on the way to school and work respectively, a guy got in to the elevator, holding at least three guns, and several duffel bags. I can only imagine what was in the bags -- ammo, more guns? Instinctively, I pulled the stroller closer to me, away from the guns. What would have happened if this guy was angry, violent, unstable? We would have had no defense.<br />
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We live in a world where merely riding in an elevator puts my daughter at risk. How are such things even fathomable? And, perhaps more importantly, how are such things preventable?<br />
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Whatever it is that we're doing isn't working. But what, exactly is it that we're doing? The conservatives/Republicans/pro-gun-advocates and the liberals/Democrats/anti-gun-advocates are busy calling each other names, lying to the people, ignoring the facts, ignoring reality. No one is talking about compromise or trying to find solutions that can and will work in real life.<br />
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<a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/world/national-security/nra-calls-for-protecting-schools-with-arms/2012/12/21/f2afca98-4b89-11e2-9a42-d1ce6d0ed278_video.html?hpid=z2" target="_blank">The NRA just held</a> <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/remarks-from-the-nra-press-conference-on-sandy-hook-school-shooting-delivered-on-dec-21-2012-transcript/2012/12/21/bd1841fe-4b88-11e2-a6a6-aabac85e8036_story.html?hpid=z2" target="_blank">a press conference</a> <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/put-armed-police-officers-in-every-school-nra-head-says/2012/12/21/9ac7d4ae-4b8b-11e2-9a42-d1ce6d0ed278_story.html?hpid=z1" target="_blank">where they said</a> <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/the-fix/wp/2012/12/21/the-unapologetic-nra-and-what-it-means/" target="_blank">all sorts of</a> <a href="http://dcist.com/2012/12/head_of_nra_pins_connecticut_massac.php" target="_blank">ridiculous things</a>. That the Newtown tragedy was the result of violent video games, and that guns are not to blame. That what this country really needs is a database tracking the mentally ill -- not, for argument's sake, a database tracking gun owners. There should be armed police officers in every school. That the cure for gun violence is more gun ownership and less regulation. I could go on, but it makes me ill to think about it.<br />
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And, almost simultaneously,<a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/da-4-dead-including-suspected-gunman-in-shooting-along-rural-central-pa-road/2012/12/21/9e637938-4b95-11e2-8758-b64a2997a921_story.html?hpid=z3" target="_blank"> there was another mass shooting taking place</a>, this time in Pennsylvania.<br />
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Almost everything said in the NRA press conference makes my head spin because it defies logic and reason -- and statistics. <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/worldviews/wp/2012/12/17/ten-country-comparison-suggests-theres-little-or-no-link-between-video-games-and-gun-murders/?Post+generic=%3Ftid%3Dsm_twitter_washingtonpost" target="_blank">There is no statistical link between violent video games and gun violence.</a> (<a href="http://healthland.time.com/2011/12/02/how-playing-violent-video-games-may-change-the-brain/" target="_blank">Note: there is, however, a link between violent video games and being desensitized to violence.</a>) <a href="http://ivn.us/2012/07/25/gun-control-an-international-comparison/" target="_blank">Countries with stronger gun regulations have</a> <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2012/07/a-land-without-guns-how-japan-has-virtually-eliminated-shooting-deaths/260189/" target="_blank">less gun violence</a>. <a href="http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2012/09/mass-shootings-investigation" target="_blank">More guns means</a><a href="http://motherjones.tumblr.com/post/38000534916/if-you-feel-strongly-that-unfettered-access-to" target="_blank"> more gun violence.</a> <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2012/12/14/nine-facts-about-guns-and-mass-shootings-in-the-united-states/" target="_blank">And, compared with other developed countries, the United States is particularly violent.</a><br />
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"Violence begets violence." -- <span style="background-color: white; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19.200000762939453px;"> </span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violence_begets_violence" target="_blank">Martin Luther King, Jr.</a></blockquote>
To be fair, I am not a particularly strong advocate for guns. Back in the days when I used to write with more regularity, I wrote about how, a billion years ago, in my last semester of law school, <a href="http://mostboringblogever.blogspot.com/2011/03/stereotypes-and-self-righteousness.html" target="_blank">I worked as an intern in the office of the public defender</a>. When I was working there, defending my clients against various misdemeanor charges, many of my friends were interning on the other side, in the State Attorney's office, and several of them thought that I needed to get a gun, or at least learn how to fire a gun, for my own safety. But I resisted. I was scared of guns in general, and wary that just by my having a gun, I would be able to protect myself. At 5'2" (in shoes) and (at that point in time) 115 lbs (soaking wet), if someone wanted to overpower me, they probably could, gun or no gun. In my mind, rightly or wrongly, the consequences of letting them get my gun were worse than my not having one at all. (<a href="http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/09/090930121512.htm" target="_blank">Note: according to the statistics, I was probably right.</a>)<br />
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I also wonder about the mix of guns with violence and instability, the sort of things that people don't talk about in public. But I know about that too. I have siblings, and one of my siblings had a difficult adolescence. That sibling was angry and unhappy, and often threatened violence. It was in the days before Columbine; in the days before such things were even thinkable. But there it was: many times, my sibling threatened to stab me in my sleep, threatened our parents the same way, threatened to hurt others, threatened self-harm. We all came out of it okay, thanks to therapy and the fact that adolescence does, eventually, end, and whatever it is or was seemingly became more manageable in adulthood. But when I think about it -- which I try not to -- I am glad that my parents didn't keep weapons in the house. In a rage, a gun would have made it too easy for something awful to happen. Instability, mental illness, violence -- they might be gasoline, but a gun is the lit match.<br />
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So, we're back to the guns and the violence, and whether there is anything we can do about it.<br />
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"The only thing that stops a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun." -- Wayne LaPierre, the chief executive of the National Rifle Association, Dec. 21, 2012.</blockquote>
I heard him say that during the press conference and I chuckled. It may be true, but you know what? It's much easier for the good guy to stop the bad guy if said bad guy doesn't have a gun in the first place. The statistics maintain that keeping the bad guy from getting the gun is likely to stop the fiasco before it starts: <a href="http://www.newyorker.com/online/blogs/comment/2012/12/the-simple-truth-about-gun-control.html" target="_blank">"Making crime even a little bit harder made it much, much rarer."</a><br />
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Given the opportunity, I would want guns to disappear from the earth, or at least the country. But that's wishful thinking: guns are legal, abundant, and, as my husband said to me, "You can't put the genie back in the bottle."<br />
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That's not to say that I think all guns and gun owners are bad. For example, I don't necessarily agree with hunting for sport, but I know avid hunters, and, with the laws as they are, I have no problem with them having guns. The hunters I know are responsible gun owners. They bought their guns legally, they know how to use them, and they keep them safely locked.<br />
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Responsible gun owners know that the "right to bear arms" is not absolute:<br />
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"Like most rights, the right secured by the Second Amendment is not unlimited. From Blackstone through the 19th-century cases, commentators and courts routinely explained that the right was not a right to keep and carry any weapon whatsoever in any manner whatsoever and for whatever purpose." -- <a href="http://www.scotusblog.com/wp/wp-content/uploads/.../07-290.pdf" target="_blank">District of Columbia v. Heller</a>, 554 U.S. 570 (2008).</blockquote>
(Note: I don't necessarily agree with the majority in Heller; I tend to think that Scalia's interpretation of the Second Amendment's language and meaning is a little tortured. But it is the law of the land, and it at least represents an acknowledgment from our most Conservative Supreme Court justice that the government can, in the right circumstances, enact reasonable limits to gun ownership.) Responsible gun owners realize that, with any right comes responsibility: they are not the ones buying crazy insane assault weapons, high capacity magazines, and bullets designed to tear through body armor. They are not the problem.<br />
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But what about the Newtown shooter? His mom acquired the guns legally, and shot them as a hobby. But was she a responsible gun owner? In my view -- based on the "facts" as we've learned them -- no. Forget the number or type of weapons, or the size of the magazine. She taught an ostensibly mentally unstable kid how to shoot, and did not secure her weapons from him, or at least didn't secure them well enough. She dropped the lit match on the gasoline.<br />
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And for other recent mass shootings? All of them, legal. <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2012/12/17/us/oregon-mall-shooting/index.html" target="_blank">The gunman in Oregon borrowed his weapon, which was legally purchased.</a> <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/24/us/aurora-gunmans-lethal-arsenal.html" target="_blank">The Colorado theater shooter stockpiled his guns and ammo legally.</a> <a href="http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-201_162-57457366/gun-dealer-linked-to-3-mass-shootings-closes/" target="_blank">The Virginia Tech shooter got his gun from an online dealer.</a><br />
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This country is between a rock and a hard place. We have a society where mental health issues are stigmatized and often left untreated. We have lax gun control laws because the Second Amendment allows for gun ownership, subject only to undefined (and largely un-enacted) "reasonable" limitations. We have a weapons market that permits guns to be obtained legally obtained and used in increasingly horrific, violent crimes. <br />
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We can't ban 'em, and we can't control 'em. Gasoline and match.darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-91717896716228740562012-10-15T19:07:00.000-04:002012-10-15T19:07:00.248-04:00The passage of timeToday is my mom's birthday. Or today was my mom's birthday. Or today would have been my mom's birthday. Four-and-a-half years later, and I still don't know what tense to use. <br />
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In some ways, it's easier: it's a quiet undercurrent instead of the focus point of everything. With the passage of time, I no longer feel so utterly without mooring. But every once in a while, the loss hits home in new, unexpected ways. Like when I think about how my mother never got to meet her two amazing grandbabies, to see what an amazing mother my sister has become, or to look into my daughter's eyes that are so much like hers. She'd have loved it all, every second of it.<br />
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<br />darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-70677354310680546282012-06-20T20:26:00.000-04:002012-06-20T20:30:02.165-04:00Something New<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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For the <a href="http://www.scriptic.org/2012/06/19/quick-challenge-something-new/" target="_blank">Scriptic "something new" quick challenge</a>, instead of writing, I went out of my comfort zone and tried something new: black and white photography. The actual "something new" is the baby swing that my husband put together while I was at work today, for our little someone new, whenever she gets here.<br />
<br />darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-5846201003352513272012-02-07T22:46:00.000-05:002012-02-07T22:46:40.802-05:00Missing my momA few weeks ago, I stumbled across a picture of my mom, holding me, when I was one day old:<br />
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I miss her. Especially today. And especially now that I'm going to have a baby of my own.darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-86642382347223043312012-02-04T16:32:00.002-05:002012-02-06T12:30:04.328-05:00My mom, the anniversary, and the Super BowlThis week is always hard for me: the anniversary of my mom's death. It's hard to believe it's been four years.<br />
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This year is unusually strange because, right before my mom died, the Giants played the Patriots in the Super Bowl. In fact, the last conversations Mom and I had were, in part, about the chili my dad made for the Super Bowl party and how happy he was was with the outcome.<br />
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I've been a Giants fan my entire life (Thanks, Dad), but I'm not sure I can bring myself to watch the game tomorrow.darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-75666831898833294992012-01-10T18:57:00.001-05:002012-01-12T11:17:38.095-05:00New Blog, Old BlogI know, I know. I'm a crappy blogger. I only posted 18 times in 2011, which means I posted, on average, 1.5 times per month. I can't -- or won't -- promise to be better this year, at least not here. I love this blog with all my heart, but I've been cheating on it with a newer blog. But I have a good reason. Really.<br />
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You see, we're having a baby. And, as we're wont to do, we decided to start writing about it at <a href="http://oliruebaby.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">The OliRue Baby Blog</a>. If you miss me, or even if you're just curious, you should probably check the new site out.<br />
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On occasion, I will still update here with non-pregnancy and non-baby related items. And then, there's always <a href="http://darao75.tumblr.com/" target="_blank">Tumblr</a>, where I share random nonsense from the internet, perhaps more frequently than is called for.darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-78944622019351443492011-12-19T19:07:00.011-05:002011-12-19T19:07:00.419-05:00On how we metEveryone keeps asking me how I met my husband. It's a tough question, because I don't actually remember meeting him. <br />
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We met in middle school, when I first moved from New Jersey to Florida at the beginning of the 8th grade. I mostly remember him from the bus, when he was sitting next to the boy who set my friend's hair on fire. On that same bus, later in the school year, he taught me the ingredients in a screwdriver. <br />
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I also remember him from classes -- mostly English classes -- both in middle school and high school. In 9th grade gifted English, he sat in front of me and had long hair that he would flip onto my desk. I had a brief crush on him -- but my crushes were always transitory, fleeting things.<br />
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We were always friends: we traveled in somewhat different circles, and we weren't particularly close friends, but I can honestly say that we always liked each other. (In retrospect, it's a little puzzling to both of us that we weren't closer friends when we were younger.) And then we left school and went in completely different directions, but somehow, 23 years later, we wound up here, together -- and now, married. <br />
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It's a pretty remarkable story, even if I can't remember the very beginning.darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21883778.post-87504478092575436492011-12-14T19:27:00.000-05:002011-12-14T19:27:00.534-05:00ElopingWhen we first started talking about getting married, I said that I loved the idea of being married to him, but I just I didn't have it in me to do a wedding: I have enough stress with work that I didn't want to plan anything, especially anything major. Plus, the families are all over the place, and that's a pain to deal with.<br />
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So we would elope.<br />
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The next question was where. Vegas is cliche. Going down the street to the local courthouse seemed so boring. On a beach somewhere warm and tropical? Yes, please.<br />
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Then it became a question of when -- and the answer was that we didn't want to rush into it. But then, the perfect scenario presented itself: I had an upcoming work trip to the Caribbean, and he could take off a few days to go with me. Hmmm . . . .<br />
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We read the requirements for getting married down there. It seemed easy enough. We rushed around to fill out and send out forms and certified checks, to find an officiant, to get a dress and a suit and rings. And then the preparing was over.<br />
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We flew down to the islands. We picked up our license the next morning, and then I went to work. The next morning, Saturday, the officiant came to the hotel, picked us up, drove us to a beach, married us in between rain showers, took some photos, and drove us back to the hotel. He sent our paperwork back to the courthouse for certification.<br />
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I spent the rest of the weekend divided between work and touristy pursuits. On Monday, a full day of work.<br />
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Tuesday, we picked up the certified copy of our marriage license, and caught a plane back home. And here we are. Married.<br />
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I wish everything could be this easy.darahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12523353095030819242noreply@blogger.com0