Monday, June 30, 2008

Ghosts of the past

This afternoon, someone shared with me some news about one of my ex-boyfriends -- good news -- and then, seemed somewhat surprised that I hadn't already heard directly. Then they asked if I wanted to see the email. And my honest, instinctive answer was no -- even though there was that little ping of curiosity in the back of my mind. I think it's the same thing that makes people check the newspaper for wedding announcements or read their exes' blogs. But ultimately, he is so far out of my orbit at this time -- and I am so far out of his -- that I don't feel the need to test the gravitational pulls.

This may sound like maturity, but it's not, really. It's selfishness or self-centeredness or something similar. I wish him the best, but I don't really care about the details. I certainly don't care enough to call or write, and don't expect it in return. Velvet used a phrase that I liked today -- "It's someone else's problem now." Amen.


6 comments:

Paige Jennifer said...

When we leave things in the past, it's usually for a good enough reason. No need to go dragging it out and dusting it off.

mad said...

I guess Shakespeare was wrong. Absence doesn't necessarily make the heart grow fonder. Or something.

restaurantrefugee said...

Further evidence that indifference is the oposite of love, not hate.

dara said...

PJ: Usually it's easier said than done. In this case, though, it was pretty easy -- I just said, "No. Don't care."

Mad: Time does heal all wounds, though.

RestaurantRefugee: I think that's true. And hating is so draining -- so much wasted effort. Just move on and focus on your own stuff.

Velvet said...

Oh you are a stronger woman than I. I'd want to see that email. Information is good...usually.

dara said...

Velvet: You're right about the information -- knowledge is power, yadda yadda yadda. And I admit there was a ping of curiosity. But I was dead serious when I used the term "gravitational pulls." It's another version of the "Just when I thought I was out, they pulled me back in" thing. It's an addiction -- drama addiction. Best to stay far far away.