Monday, December 07, 2009

Unfinished novels

Last month, when I was at my father's house, I stumbled across a box of pictures and papers that my mom had kept. For years, she had been asking me to help her put the pictures into albums, and for years, I managed to avoid the task. But while sitting in the loneliness of that house, I couldn't help but look in the box.

There were our baby pictures. Our school pictures. Pictures from our vacations. Pictures of my mother's travels from before she was married. A few newspaper clippings, invitations, and other scraps of paper she had kept. And at the bottom, was a red file folder, one that I had seen before.

Her novel.

Sitting in her office, surrounded by memories of her unfinished life, I couldn't bear to read it. And I don't remember having ever read it. But I do remember her telling me about it when I was a little girl, when she was first figuring out that I was a writer. How she had started writing a novel, but could never manage to get it finished -- how she started feeling that in order to write well, she needed to read more. But she also promised me that one day she would finish it and let me read it.

She never did.

That's how I saw my mother: as a reader. She read anything, everything. So I grew up in houses that were always filled to the seams with books. And I read anything, everything. Just like my mother.

And like my mother, I want to write. I have stories to tell; I have words that are simmering just below my surface, wanting to be shared. And an unfinished novel that I can never bring myself to work on, because there are so many other things to do, so many books to read.


Saturday, November 07, 2009

My mother's house

My father pulled his new car into the garage and immediately pointed out the new lights. Once we got inside, he showed me where he had shelving built into the closet in the office, after the old shelf fell down. But other than that, the house seems the same as she left it -- the same furniture she picked out, the same art on the walls, the same piles of things that she never got around to.

It breaks my heart to be here. So I can understand why he keeps talking about selling the house. It's like being in a museum.


Wednesday, November 04, 2009

On ne voit bien qu'avec le cœur

To me, books are like comfort food. When I am sad or melancholy, I tend go back to the same ones over and over again.

Lately, one of those books is The Little Prince. I vaguely recall reading it as a kid -- I think I even read it in the original French -- but I don't think it had much of an effect on me then. But as an adult, I find it deeply moving. I think a lot about the episode with the fox, particularly the statement that "one sees clearly only with the heart," and the discussion of what it means to tame and to be tamed -- or, stepping outside the allegory, to love and to be loved -- and the responsibility that comes with it. It is so simple and yet, so very profound.

If you've read it, you know what I mean. If you haven't -- go read it now!



Tuesday, November 03, 2009

Albums of the Year(s)

Last year, the AV Club ran an article based on something they saw somewhere else -- which is essentially a highbrow meme -- where they picked a favorite album for each year they've been alive. Of course, I think it's kind of a neat idea. So, here are my favorite albums for each year that I've been alive:

1975: Fleetwood Mac, Fleetwood Mac
1976: Hotel California, The Eagles
1977: Rumours, Fleetwood Mac
1978: Outlandos d'Amour, The Police
1979: London Calling, The Clash
1980: Boys Don't Cry, The Cure
1981: Escape, Journey
1982: Thriller, Michael Jackson
1983: Madonna, Madonna
1984: The Unforgettable Fire, U2
1985: Songs From the Big Chair, Tears for Fears
1986: Slippery When Wet, Bon Jovi
1987: The Joshua Tree, U2
1988: New Jersey, Bon Jovi
1989: Disintigration, The Cure
1990: Violator, Depeche Mode
1991: Ten, Pearl Jam
1992: Wish, The Cure
1993: August and Everything After, Counting Crows
1994: Grace, Jeff Buckley
1995: A Boy Named Goo, Goo Goo Dolls
1996: Crash, Dave Matthews Band
1997: Whatever and Ever Amen, Ben Folds Five
1998: Wide Open Spaces, Dixie Chicks
1999: There is Nothing Left to Lose, Foo Fighters
2000: No Name Face, Lifehouse
2001: Room For Squares, John Mayer
2002: Songs About Jane, Maroon 5
2003: Elephant, The White Stripes
2004: How to Dismantle an Atomic Bomb, U2
2005: X&Y, Coldplay
2006: Stand Still, Look Pretty, The Wreckers
2007: Ga Ga Ga Ga Ga, Spoon
2008: Viva la Vida or Death and All His Friends, Coldplay
2009: Middle Cyclone, Neko Case

I'm shocked by how hard it was to make these choices, and how mainstream these choices are.


Saturday, October 10, 2009

Flu vaccine game theory

One of the things people don't know about me is that, in college, I minored in Humanities -- which, if you don't understand, roughly translates into me minoring in being a dilettante. To complete the minor, I had to complete a certain number of units in a certain number of disciplines. Since it's been 15 years, I can only remember four of them -- Art History, Theater, Spanish (Yes, I can translate Spanish poetry -- or in my case, lyrics to pop songs), and Economics.

(Cue "One of these things is not like the other.")

Yes, Economics. Which mostly means that I was the only hippie in a class full of libertarians studying Law and Economics. But which also means that I have a slightly better-than-average understanding of concepts like game theory.

Last night, I was thinking about this in the context of the flu vaccine. You see, I was out with a friend and mentioned that I got my flu shot, and she, in turn, noted that she did not plan on getting a flu shot this year because she never gets the flu. My mind started racing with the implications.

Ideally, the flu vaccine works best when large populations are vaccinated. But it bears a cost -- money, time, pain. Moreover, people can't really prove that the flu shot works -- if they get the flu shot and don't get the flu, they can't just assume that it worked. They may have a natural immunity or may not have been exposed to the virus. But if they get the vaccine and it doesn't work, they know.

So what is the vaccine other than a way of hedging your bet? If you decide not to get the flu vaccine, aren't you really just counting on the probability that the people you come in contact with are not contagious, i.e. got their vaccine?

Clearly some economist or public policy grad student out there needs to contemplate this more fully.


Saturday, October 03, 2009

Buddhism

I've been reading a lot of Buddhist philosophy lately. It all started when I stumbled across a quote that changed how I've been trying to deal with people over the past few weeks. To paraphrase, the quote is: "Stop having expectations of others and just be kind."

Don't let it fool you: It's not that easy -- especially the first part. But I'm working on it.

And while I'm not necessarily ready to give up on my personal version of Judaism just yet, there's a lot of little Buddhist nuggets of wisdom that appeal to me. Like the idea that we don't need to improve. Or how we can't control the uncontrollable. And how we should stop dwelling on the past or the future but live in the present.

I'm going to take these and blend them in to my personal life philosophy. And as I've been reading, I've found more and more of these little nuggets that I want to keep -- or at least try on and see if they work. So every time something jumps out at me, I add it to the list I've been keeping next to my bed, in a little Strawberry Shortcake notebook.

I wonder if this is how cult religions start.


Friday, September 25, 2009

Contemplating U2

Here is a confession that should surprise no one: U2 is, by far, my favorite band, and have been since high school. And I've seen them on every single tour since I've been old enough to drive myself to wherever it is that they are playing. So it should surprise no one that I will be attending their concert here next week.

In gearing up for said concert, one of the music critics at the Washington Post posted a blog ranking the 12 U2 studio albums from worst to best. Here is his list:

12. October (1981)
11. How to Dismantle an Atomic Bomb (2004)
10. POP (1997)
9. No Line on the Horizon (2009)
8. War (1983)
7. All That You Can't Leave Behind (2000)
6. Rattle and Hum (1988)
5. The Unforgettable Fire (1984)
4. Boy (1980)
3. Zooropa (1993)
2. The Joshua Tree (1987)
1. Achtung Baby (1991)

At first I thought this list was dead wrong, but now I'm not sure. Like them, whether I rank Achtung Baby or The Joshua Tree as #1 or #2 depends on the day and whether I'm leaning towards dark and ambient or earnest soul-searching. As for the rest, I'd probably put The Unforgettable Fire as my #3, and move Rattle & Hum into the top 5. And I liked How to Dismantle an Atomic Bomb a lot more than some of the other newer records. But they're clearly right on one thing: Generally speaking, newer (as in post-1990) U2 < older U2.


Saturday, September 12, 2009

Observation #5

Often, when someone goes to a new hairdresser, the hairdresser will try to upsell them on additional services -- for example, hair color. After the customer politely declines, asking "Are you sure that you don't want to cover the gray?" will not work to change the customer's mind, and will, in all likelihood, reduce the hairdresser's tip.


Friday, September 04, 2009

Compromise

Compromise is a tricky, tricky thing in interpersonal relationships. Somewhere, there's this line demarcating things that are negotiable and things that are inherently part of who we are, and in the process of trying to satisfy the others in our lives, we can lose track of that boundary.

I think that this is why I'm no good in relationships: I am both unyielding and too willing to compromise. I hold myself and the people I love to very high standards and I have very high expectations -- ideas of the way things should be. At the same time, I am all too willing to give the people I love whatever it is that they need, without necessarily thinking about how it may negatively affect me -- until, of course, I suddenly reach a point when I stop to wonder what it is that I'm getting in return. Once you get to that point -- the point where you start keeping a ledger -- the whole thing is doomed.

I can't even begin to count the number of times I've found myself thinking that some of the choices and compromises that people make in the service of their relationships are too exacting, and I wonder whether I could ever bring myself to do it, day in and day out. I like to think that for the right person, in the right circumstances, no compromise is too great -- but I'm not sure if that's really true.


Saturday, August 22, 2009

States Meme

Put an X next to the states (51 counting DC) you have visited. Airports don't count!
Just for fun, put an O beside the states where you have lived. The average is 8; how do you match up?


USA BY REGIONS:

NEW ENGLAND:
Maine - X
Vermont - X
Massachusetts - X
Rhode Island - X
Connecticut - X
New Hampshire - X

MID-ATLANTIC:
New York - X
New Jersey - O
Pennsylvania - X
Maryland - X
Delaware - X
Washington DC - X

SOUTH:
Arkansas - X
Louisiana - X
Mississippi - X
Alabama - X
Tennessee - X
Kentucky -
West Virginia - X
Virginia - O
North Carolina - X
South Carolina - X
Georgia - X
Florida - O

MIDWEST:
Michigan - X
Ohio - X
Indiana - X
Illinois - X
Wisconsin -
Minnesota -
Iowa -
Missouri - X

GREAT PLAINS:
North Dakota -
South Dakota -
Nebraska -
Kansas -

MOUNTAIN:
Montana -
Wyoming -
Colorado - X
Utah -
Idaho -

SOUTHWEST:
Nevada - X
Arizona - X
New Mexico -
Texas - X
Oklahoma -

PACIFIC:
California - X
Oregon -
Washington -
Alaska -
Hawaii -


33 of 50, but likely to add Hawaii and Utah soon.



Thursday, August 06, 2009

35 33 Things You Wouldn't Think To Ask

Answer these 35 Things You Wouldn't Think To Ask. Then tag me so I can come and have a look.

1. Have you ever been searched by the cops?
No.

2. Do you close your eyes on roller coaster?
Yes. I love the feeling of the wind in my face, but the sight of the scenery passing by is likely to make me hurl.

(3. There is no 3. Next.)

4. Would you rather sleep with someone, or alone?
It's taken me a long time to admit this, but I like having someone next to me.

5. Do you believe in ghosts?
I am open to the possibility.

6. Do you consider yourself creative?
Yes.

7. Do you think O.J. killed his wife?
This question is vague, as O.J. had more than one wife, and at the time Nicole Brown Simpson was killed, she was no longer legally O.J.'s wife. But yes, I think he probably did it.

8. Jennifer Aniston or Angelina Jolie?
I think I'd have more fun hanging out with Angelina. Plus we're closer in age.

9. Can you honestly say you know ANYTHING about politics?
Yes.

10. Do you know how to play poker?
Yes.

11. Have you ever been awake for 48 hours straight?
Yes. And you don't want to be anywhere near me when it happens.

12. What's your favorite commercial?
Mark McGwire, Greg Maddux and Tom Glavine, "Chicks dig the long ball." Check it out.

13. Do you write in a journal?
Isn't that what I'm doing right now?

14. If you're driving in the middle of the night, and no one is around you, do you run a red light?
No.

15. Do you have a secret that no one knows but you?
Yes.

16. Boston Red Sox or New York Yankees?
I tend to root for underdogs, so I dislike them both almost equally now. When I was little, it was the Yankees b/c my dad is a fan -- and because they weren't very good in the 80s. As an adult, it was the Sox, until they started winning like the Yankees. Barf. Go Nats!

17. Have you ever been Ice Skating?
Yes. Ask my sister how it went. (But, for the record, I was a damn good roller skater as a kid.)

18. How often do you remember your dreams?
Often.

19. What's the one thing on your mind?
Food.

20. Do you always wear your seat belt?
Yes.

21. What talent do you wish you had?
Patience. Oh, wait, that's not a talent, it's a virtue.

So, time-travel.

22. Do you like Sushi?
Yes.

23. What do you wear to bed?
Depends on the day. Usually, not much.

24. Do you truly hate anyone?
No.

25. If you could sleep with one famous person, who would it be?
Wow, tough question. Probably Jon Stewart or Robert Downey Jr, but those are too trendy.

26. Do you know anyone in jail?
At the current time? Not that I'm aware of.

27. What food do you find disgusting?
Brains.

28. Have you ever made fun of your friends behind their back?
Yes. But I'll do it to their face too.

29. Have you ever been punched in the face?
Yes.

30. Do you believe in angels and demons?
Not really. I wish I did. I wish I believed that my mother was looking out for me.

31. How old were you when you think you actually became a 'grown-up'?
Always? Never? When I got a full-time job? When I bought my condo? When my mom died?

32. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
I really loved Napa. Maybe New York City. Maybe in the South of France, near the Mediterranean, where I could work on my poetry.

33. Have you ever been in the hospital?
Yes.

34. Are you happy with your life today?
I am aware of all of my blessings and want for very little. So I suppose so.

(35. There is no 35. That means there are only 33 questions in total. Who did the math?)



Wednesday, August 05, 2009

More Threes

My life in the 3's

You've been tagged, so you are supposed to write a note with the 3's of YOU. At the end, choose people to be tagged. You have to tag me. If I tagged you, it's because I want to know more about you - but not in a creepy stalker kind of way...


Three things I couldn't live without
1. Sleep
2. Food
3. Water

Three cars I've owned
1. 2001 VW Jetta
2. 1999 VW Jetta
3. 1996 Mazda 626

Three things I'm addicted to
1. Diet Coke
2. DVR
3. Chocolate

Three things I couldn't do if my life depended on it
1. Run a marathon
2. Eat monkey brains, or any type of brains for that matter
3. Work in customer service

Three things I'm decent at
1. Baking
2. Organizing
3. Decorating

Three of my favorite foods:
1. Italian
2. Steak
3. Seafood

Three of my favorite restaurants
1. Ray's the Steaks (looking to going back now that I am no longer being a pescetarian!)
2. Chinatown Express (the place with the noodles in the window)
3. Willow (and it's next door!)

Three of my favorite clothing items:
1. my Nanette Lepore dress
2. my "Please touch my monkey" t-shirt
3. the Kate Spade handbag I bought for my mom for her 60th birthday

Three things that make me cry:
1. Missing my mom
2. Telephone conversations with my Nana
3. Not feeling well

Three things I CAN'T STAND
1. Poor grammar
2. Hypocrisy
3. Religious fundamentalism

Three (more) things I'm looking forward to
1. Going camping and whitewater rafting next weekend
2. The return of Mad Men and Project Runway in the next few weeks
3. Jayden's first birthday (I'm going to spoil that kid rotten!)



Tuesday, August 04, 2009

Fifteen Books

Here are the rules: Don’t take too long to think about it. Fifteen books you’ve read that will always stick with you. First fifteen you can recall in no more than 15 minutes. Copy the instructions into your own note, and be sure to tag the person who tagged you.

My 15 Books:

1. Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible No Good Very Bad Day (Judith Viorst)
2. The Little Prince (Antoine de Saint-Exupéry)
3. Anne of Green Gables (L.M. Montgomery)
4. The Thorn Birds (Colleen McCullough)
5. 1984 (George Orwell)
6. Gone With the Wind (Margaret Mitchell)
7. A Wrinkle In Time (Madeleine L'Engle)
8. To Kill A Mockingbird (Harper Lee)
9. Generation X (Douglas Coupland)
10. Waterland (Graham Swift)
11. The Handmaid's Tale (Margaret Atwood)
12. The Great Gatsby (F. Scott Fitzgerald)
13. The Stranger (Albert Camus)
14. Little Women (Louisa May Alcott)
15. Slaughterhouse Five (Kurt Vonnegut)



Wednesday, July 08, 2009

The Summer Meme

(Courtesy of Restaurant Refugee)

1. You’re about to get into the Cash Cab in NYC. You can choose any two or three people (from your actual life) to be with you. Name the people with you and why? My aunt, since she thinks she knows everything and would make for great (read: annoying) reality tv, and my seven year old cousin, since it's his favorite show.

2. The TV gods have appeared before you in the form of a burning remote. They instruct you to select any canceled television show to be returned to the airwaves. You do, however, have to make your case to them. What show, what’s your argument in favor? Veronica Mars. It was smart, funny, original, and it had a lot more story left to tell. It's also the reason that I'm still boycotting the CW.

3. It’s not summer in DC (or your city of origin, or your favorite city if you wish) without _______________? It's not summer in DC without Screen on the Green. Thank heavens they managed to save it.

4. The best summer accessory in your repertoire is? Sunscreen for my fair, fair skin, since nothing's worse than a horrible summer sunburn. And giant sunglasses.

5. It took you a while to get on board with the _______________ trend but once you did, you don’t know how you lived without it. Flip-flops. I used to be totally against them, but now I can't imagine commuting with anything else on my feet.

6. The song to which you are embarrassed to admit that you know all of the words? Embarrassed? Me? Never. I am proud of the fact that I can sing along to just about any 'N Sync or Backstreet Boys song.

7. Your favorite memory of summer is? Trying to catch lightning bugs with my siblings. Every time I see lightning bugs now, I smile.

8. The memory you would love to create this summer is? A vacation. Any vacation.

9. According to Confucius, real knowledge exists in the understanding of what one doesn’t know. What don’t you know? I don't know what the future holds. But I'm starting to understand that it's the process of getting there -- and not the result -- that really matters.

10. What question do you wish were included in this meme? Favorite summer food or beverage. And I'd probably respond with ripe watermelon. Nothing is better when you're outside on a hot day.




Wednesday, June 24, 2009

The value of having alternatives

This evening, I came out on the winning side of a negotiation with a ticket scalper. And, in retrospect, I think that almost all of my negotiations with scalpers turn out well. So, I've decided to pass my wisdom on to everyone here.

Here goes:

To win in a negotiation you have to have alternatives. If you are desperate to buy or sell your tickets, YOU WILL LOSE.

Here's an example. I was in Pittsburgh several years ago, and wanted to go to a Pirates game. It was about 7:15, 10 minutes after the game started. I was walking across the Roberto Clemente bridge, on my way up to the stadium ticket office, and the scalpers started trying to sell to me. They weren't giving me any kind of deal, so I kept walking. One finally asked me what I wanted. I said, "The game's already started. I can buy a ticket from you, or I can buy a ticket from the gate. You can't get a refund on the tickets you're holding. So it's your choice whether you want to deal with me." I got the ticket, lower deck behind home plate, about 1/3 of the way down, for $10.

Tonight was no different. At work, I told one of my coworkers that it would be my goal to trade my two decent upper-deck seats for one good seat in the lower deck.

So, when I got out of Metro this evening, I turned to the first scalper who asked me if I had extra tickets and told him I had a pair. He asked me what I wanted. I said "Face value." He said he couldn't give me that, the best he could do was half. I started walking. He then offered me an extra $10. I told him no and kept on walking. This exact same scenario played out a couple of times.

Finally, the last scalper decided to have a conversation with me. I told him that I had a pair of tickets, and would part with one or both of them, but not for less than face value -- and that I knew that there were plenty of Red Sox fans willing to pay. At first he protested. He explained that he couldn't pay me face value because then he wouldn't have any room to negotiate with the buyers.

Since this guy took the time to explain his predicament, rather than walking away, I explained my position: I wanted to go to the game, but I had alternatives. I could sell both tickets, at a premium, and try to buy a single ticket. I could use one ticket and sell the other, probably for less, but still for a fair amount. Or I could use one ticket and trade in the unused one for a different game -- which means I'd get full value for it.

In other words, I had alternatives, all of which were more palatable than selling him my pair of tickets for less than face value. If he wanted my pair of tickets, he'd have to give me what I wanted.

So finally, he offered a trade. One ticket in the lower deck, on the first base side, about halfway down, on the aisle. A $40 ticket for my pair of $20 tickets.

I took him up on the offer. I got exactly what I wanted.


Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Observation #4: Tragedy and Humanity

I was riding the Metro into work this morning, and my mind naturally drifted to yesterday's tragedy. My heart goes out to the families of the victims, and for a fleeting moment, I felt a sort-of kinship with them, in a way that only people who have lost others in a very shocking and sudden way could possibly understand.

Then I looked across the crowded train and had a moment of clarity: Other than perhaps the very smallest children, every single person on that train has, at some point, been touched by tragedy. Maybe big, maybe little, maybe someone close, maybe indirectly, but this shared experience of loss is one of the main things that makes us human.


Sunday, May 31, 2009

The Month of Living Pescetarianly

At the beginning of the month, I embarked on an adventure: I decided to give up all meat and poultry for one month.

I had a couple of reasons for doing this. The most important reason was that I've been trying to be healthier since my mom died, and I thought that a mostly vegetarian diet would be healthy. But honestly, the idea only occurred to me after reading some literature about how meat is not particularly good for the environment.

So I decided to try it out.

The results have been mixed. Ultimately, I didn't lose any weight, and I may have gained a pound or two. I don't feel any healthier, and in fact, before I started taking an iron supplement, my anemia was so bad that, for a couple of days, I was barely functioning.

My conclusions:

1. I have no problem giving up poultry. I did not crave it at all during the entire month. I can't say the same thing about red meat.
2. I really like fish, and, despite eating it all month, I have yet to get bored of it. There are a lot of varieties and a lot of options on how to prepare it.
3. Even keeping a mostly-vegetarian diet, I don't eat enough vegetables.
4. I eat way too much cheese. It's probably my favorite food.
5. I really don't eat a lot of shellfish. I don't order it in restaurants very often, and I don't cook it in my house -- except for lobster ravioli from the Italian Store.
6. Actually, I really don't cook anything in my house. Even with watching my diet, I only cooked in the house about 8 times during the entire month.
7. Cupcakes are not a healthy dinner.

So, am I going to stay pescetarian? Probably not. The siren call of steak will, ultimately, be too hard to resist -- but I'm not rushing to eat it either. I think what that means is that I'm going to limit my meat and poultry consumption, now that I know that I don't have to eat it every day.


Friday, May 22, 2009

The good, the bad, and the ugly -- Twitter style

It's been almost a month since my last confession post. I've been neglectful, but mostly, I've been busy. I have, however, been twittering as much or more than usual. I'm not sure whether that's because it's quicker or because most of my thoughts are not more than 140 characters long.

Today, I had a bunch of things happen, but I did not twitter them. Here is what it would have looked like if I had.

The good:
1. thinks that, in her case, casual Fridays are really flip-flop Fridays.
2. just ate a sandwich from Cowgirl Creamery and cupcake (Morning Call) from Red Velvet. Dee-lish.
3. is looking forward to sitting out by the pool. Loves three-day weekends.


The bad:
1. started the day with Metro doors closing on her, causing a painful and unsightly cut on her hand.
2. got a sunburn from being outside for twenty minutes at lunch. Clearly this means that she does not get out enough.
3. has so much work to bring home that it's not even funny.

The ugly:
1. developed a new Tourette's like tic after finding large bug in her hair.
2. can't believe that she may have agreed to drive to the beach this weekend. Ugh, can you say 'traffic nightmare'?
3. while packing up her computer, stumbled across an inventory of her mother's jewelery. What a depressing way to start a weekend.



Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Yes or no?

Rules:
1. You can ONLY answer Yes or No!
2. You are NOT ALLOWED to explain ANYTHING unless someone messages or comments you and Asks!

Now, here's what you're supposed to do... And please do not spoil the Fun. Copy and paste this into your notes, delete my answers, type in your answers and tag as many of your friends as you'd like to. Then see what happens.

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Kissed any one of your Facebook friends? Yes

Been arrested? No

Kissed someone you didn't like? Yes

Fell in love with one of your facebook friends? Yes

Kissed in the rain? Yes

Fallen asleep at work/school? Yes

Has someone borrowed money from you and not paid it back? Yes

Ran a red light? No

Been suspended from school? Yes

Totaled your car/motorbike in an accident? No

Been fired from a job? Yes

Done something you told yourself you wouldn't? Yes

Been in a near fatal accident? No

Laughed until something you were drinking came out your nose? Yes

Sang in the shower? Yes

Been pushed into a pool with all your clothes? Yes

Broken a bone? Yes

Working your dream job? No

Blacked out from drinking? Yes

Played a prank on someone? Yes

Felt like killing someone? No

Made your girlfriend/boyfriend cry? Yes

Shot a gun? No

Donated Blood? Yes

Eaten Shrimp? Yes

Eaten cheesecake? Yes

Still in love with someone from your past? No

Think about the future? Yes

Believe in love? Yes

Sleep on a certain side of the bed? Yes

Talk in your sleep? No

Laughed until you peed your pants? Yes

Play/Played a musical instrument? Yes

Lived outside of the country? Yes

Gone Sky Diving? No

Gone Para sailing? No

Been skinny dipping? Yes

Lived in 3 or more states? Yes

Afraid of heights? Yes

Dated someone longer than you should have? Yes

Pierced a body part? Yes


Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Relationships, trust, and forgiveness

(Ed. Note: Bear with me here, since this is shaping up to be an oddly academic discussion of personal matters. Feel free to read between the lines as necessary.)

Over the course of my life, I've heard countless people say that the cornerstone of a good relationship is trust. As a corollary of that rule, it should follow that a lack of trust means that a relationship is not good. That seems like pure, mathematical, Socratic logic, right?

What does it mean, then, if it's not a question of trusting the other person -- you just don't really care what he or she does? Or, maybe more precisely, you only care what he or she does to the extent that it directly affects you? My current hypothesis is that, under those circumstances, it's not precisely a bad relationship -- it's more likely that it's not really a relationship at all.

And then, there's the whole interplay between trust and forgiveness. If you think you have forgiven someone for hurting you in the past, but you don't know if you can trust them not to hurt you again, have you really forgiven them? Based on the above, again my hypothesis is no -- it's not really forgiveness as much as it's acceptance. But maybe that's too fine a line to draw. Maybe I'm splitting hairs.


Monday, April 27, 2009

Playground Swing

Lately, everything in my life is so fraught with meaning, and everywhere I look, I encounter so many responsibilities and commitments and obligations. It's enough to make me want to crawl into bed, pull the blanket up over my head, and not come out for a week.

When I was in Florida a couple of weeks ago, I took a break from my sister and the baby and spent a beautiful afternoon in the park with my friends and their kids. Somehow, I found myself sitting in a playground swing for the first time in years, possibly decades. I slowly started swinging. The higher the swing climbed, the more exhiliratingly free I felt. My worries and the tasks of the day seemed to fade into the distance as I swung back and forth, and the only things remaining in my consciousness were these bits and pieces of a poem from my childhood -- something about going up in a swing, up in the air so blue. For a moment, I was no longer the adult me -- instead I had returned to childhood -- innocence, freedom, and endless possibilities.

Sadly, there came a time when I had to come back to earth, literally and figuratively. But I'm still trying to somehow keep my grasp on that feeling.


Thursday, April 16, 2009

Love

I've been spending this week looking into my new nephew's giant navy blue eyes and welcoming him into the world. He's only a week old, and already I love this little boy so much. Not just because he's part my sister and part her boyfriend -- or part my mom and my dad and my grandparents -- but because he's his own brand new little person, unique from everyone who has been here before or will be here afterwards.

I told him yesterday that I couldn't love him more if he had come from my own body -- which is completely true. I could have dozens of my own children, hundreds of nieces and nephews and cousins, and my friends could have thousands of babies, and I would still find it easy to love each of them limitlessly. That's because love itself is limitless.

But love is also timeless -- a hard truth that I learned because of my mom's death. On the plane, I was re-reading one of my favorite books from my childhood -- A Wrinkle in Time -- and I was struck by that very concept. For those who know the plot of the book, you know the basics. But one of the characters says "[T]he things that are seen are temporal. But the things which are not seen are eternal." I've thought about that quote, and I'm sure that it can be interpreted in a thousand ways, with religious and philosophical and god-knows-what-other-kind-of overtones -- but to me, it means that love is infinite, plain and simple.


Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Senior Memories

Fill this out about your SENIOR year of high school! The longer ago it was, the more fun the answers will be!!

Copy and paste the questions into your notes section, fill in the answers, and tag your friends to see their answers.

IN YOUR SENIOR YEAR DID YOU...

1. Did you date someone from your school? Yes.

2. Did you marry someone from your high school? Almost, but not quite.

3. Did you car pool to school? For a couple of weeks, until Ryan got tired of having to pick me up.

4. What kind of car did you have? None -- my dad told me to find a boy to drive me around.

5. What kind of car do you have now? 2001 VW Jetta with 35,000 miles on it. It's good to live in a place with public transportation.

6. It's Friday night...where are you now? Out at dinner. If I'm lucky there will be drinks, too.

7. It is Friday night...where were you then? Probably sleeping over one of my friend's houses so I can actually DO something.

8. What kind of job did you have in high school? None.

9. What kind of job do you do now? Lawyer.

10. Were you a party animal? No. At least not comparatively.

11. Were you considered a flirt? I don't think so.

12. Were you in band, orchestra, or choir? Nope.

13. Were you a nerd? I think I was either a slightly nerdy normal kid or a really cool nerd.

14. Did you get suspended or expelled? Not during senior year. I think I got a one-day suspension for skipping math in 10th grade -- we got caught because we decided to get breakfast at Bageland. Although maybe that was just a Saturday detention.

15. Can you sing the fight song? Hell, no. I never could, either.

16. Who was/were your favorite teacher(s)? Senior year it was definitely Ms. Arena.

17. Where did you sit during lunch? Senior year I did an "independent study" which meant that I sat in the guidance office and occasionally delivered passes. So I got to take whichever lunch I felt like - which usually meant that I took part of both, wherever my friends were.

18. What was your school's full name? Coral Springs High School.

19. When did you graduate? 1993.

20. What was your school mascot? Colts.

21. If you could go back and do it again, would you? Probably not.

22. Did you have fun at Prom? Yes.

23. Do you still talk to the person you went to Prom with? Yes, although lately it's mostly text messages.

24. Are you planning on going to your next reunion? If I can manage it. The last one was fun.

25. Do you still talk to people from school? Yes, and not just via Facebook.

26. School Colors? Green and Blue.


Monday, March 23, 2009

My life, as described by U2

Using only song names from ONE ARTIST, "cleverly" answer these questions. Pass it on to 10 people and include me!

Pick Your Artist: U2

Are you male or female: The Ground Beneath Her Feet

Describe yourself: So Cruel

How do you feel about yourself: Magnificent

Describe where you currently live: City of Blinding Lights

If you could go anywhere, where would you go: Where the Streets Have No Name

Your best friend is: Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own

Your favorite color is: White as Snow

You know: Love is Blindness

What's the weather like: Electrical Storm

If your life was a TV show, what would it be called: Even Better than the Real Thing

What is life to you: Running to Stand Still

Your love life: Mysterious Ways

What is the best advice you have to give: Walk On

If you could change your name, what would it be: Miss Sarajevo

Your favorite food is: Crumbs from Your Table


Thursday, March 19, 2009

Three Things

THREE NAMES I GO BY
1. Dara
2. D
3. Pookie (but only by my sister)

THREE JOBS I HAVE HAD IN MY LIFE
1. Lawyer
2. Target employee
3. Intern

THREE PLACES I HAVE LIVED
1. Arlington, VA
2. Coral Springs, FL
3. Marlboro, NJ

THREE TV SHOWS THAT I WATCH
1. Lost
2. 30 Rock
3. How I Met Your Mother

THREE PLACES I HAVE BEEN
1. Jerusalem
2. London
3. Marrakesh

THREE PLACES I WANT TO GO
1. Canada
2. Australia
3. Japan

THREE OF MY FAVORITE FOODS
1. Gnocchi
2. Cupcakes
3. Steak

THREE THINGS I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO
1. The birth of my nephew
2. Taking a vacation
3. Going to sleep

THREE PETS THAT YOU HAVE OWNED
1. Remy, the family dog
2. Assorted goldfish
3. Various betta fishes

THREE FAVORITE BANDS/ ARTISTS
1. U2
2. The Beatles
3. The Police

THREE FAVORITE TEAMS TO WATCH
1. New York Giants
2. Washington Capitals
3. Washington Nationals

THREE FAVORITE DRINKS
1. Diet Coke
2. Green Tea
3. Vodka and soda


Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Momentarily

I know I've been awfully quiet lately, posting mostly memes and quizzes. Not that I'm really still all that focused on trying to sort things out in my head, in private. Instead, I've taken a new approach to my life -- the "Stop thinking and do whatever feels good in the moment" approach.

I know me, and therefore, I know that this will not last. I am fully aware. Eventually I will need more -- I will need a plan, possibilities, an idea of what the future may bring. But right now, it's all I can handle. More importantly, it's giving me what I need.


Thursday, March 12, 2009

Author meme

List the top 25 authors who have inspired you or made you think over the course of your life (in no particular order):

1. Edgar Allen Poe

2. William Shakespeare

3. Mark Twain

4. George Orwell

5. Margaret Atwood

6. Salman Rushdie

7. Douglas Coupland

8. Graham Swift

9. Kurt Vonnegut

10. F. Scott Fitzgerald

11. Dr. Seuss

12. Vladimir Nabokov

13. Madeleine L'Engle

14. Louisa May Alcott

15. Margaret Mitchell

16. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

17. Harper Lee

18. Dave Eggers

19. E.M. Forster

20. William Faulkner

21. Edith Wharton

22. L.M. Montgomery

23. Nick Hornby

24. Gabriel Garcia Marquez

25. Albert Camus




Saturday, March 07, 2009

Thoughts on Religulous

I have always been somewhat of an agnostic, a doubter. I respect a lot of the traditions and the history associated with religion, but I have never really been able to accept that which has no proof, no physical evidence. It's gotten worse since my mom died -- I tell people that I am "off god." Still, sometimes I wish that I had faith -- that I was able to shut off my rationality and my doubt and just believe in some greater power that is more substantial than the mere feeling that putting out good, positive energy will serve me better than negative energy.

That should give you a sense of the playing field with which I went in to watching Religulous. To me, it seemed like an interesting concept: Comedian Bill Maher taking a critical look at religion and calling it out on some of its irrationalities. And the movie worked for me, right up until the end, where Maher took everything he presented over the past 90 minutes and quickly proclaimed his thesis: Religion will destroy the world.

I felt like I had whiplash. Going from "doubt is healthy" to "organized religion is going to destroy the world" is too great a leap, even for me. Don't get me wrong: I can see the absurdities in a lot of religious concepts, and I can agree that there is a level of fundamentalism that is dangerous -- particularly when people follow leaders blindly, without thought. And I guess that's the best explanation of why I disagree: It's not religion per se that's the problem; it's a lack of critical thinking.


ABC Meme

Age: Old enough to know better than to answer the question.

Believe in Magic: I am sure that there are things in the universe that we cannot explain and that others would consider magic.

Cake or pie: Both. Apple or pumpkin pie or yellow cake with chocolate frosting.

Day or Night: Night.

Eyes: Green/Blue/Gray.

First thoughts waking up: Snooze.

Goals: Being happy in the moment.

Holiday: Halloween.

Instrument: I have a guitar, a casio keyboard, a harmonica, and some maracas. I could totally start a band right now.

Jewelry: Earrings, ring, necklace, watch.

Keep a journal: Always.

Love: Books.

Movies: Gone With The Wind. Before Sunrise. Office Space.

Number: I like numbers that are divisible by 3.

One wish: Love.

Piercing: 5 earrings. One cartilage piercing. Former belly button piercing.

Quail: Once. Meh.

Reality T.V: Project Runway.

Shower: Hot.

Tattoos: Butterfly, right shoulder.

Unpredictable: On occasion. I am unpredictably unpredictable.

Vacation spot(s): Anywhere with good company.

Worst feeling: Intestinal infection. Trust me on this.

X-Rays: Teeth. Arm. Fingers. Foot.

Year it is now: 2009.

Zoo animal: Monkey.



Monday, March 02, 2009

100 (More) Things

1. ONE OF YOUR SCARS, HOW DID YOU GET IT?
On my right knee, from the metro escalator going to a Nationals game. I bled for almost the entire game, but Justin kept telling me that I didn't need stitches.

2. WHAT IS ON THE WALLS IN YOUR ROOM?
Currently, a Beatles poster and a Sting poster.

3. DESCRIBE YOURSELF IN 5 WORDS
Funny, short, smart, pragmatic, logical.

4. WHAT TYPE OF MUSIC DO YOU LISTEN TO?
Pop and rock, mostly.

5. DO YOU KNOW WHAT TIME YOU WERE BORN?
5:16 p.m.

6. WHAT DO YOU WANT MORE THAN ANYTHING RIGHT NOW?
Fulfillment.

7. WHAT DO YOU MISS?
My mom.

8. WHAT IS YOUR MOST PRIZED POSSESSION(S)?
A letter that my dad wrote to me when I was 12, and the jewelry that my mother gave to me.

9. HOW TALL ARE YOU?
Not quite 5'2".

10. DO YOU GET CLAUSTROPHOBIC?
A little.

11. DO YOU GET SCARED IN THE DARK?
No. I like the dark.

12. THE LAST PERSON TO MAKE YOU CRY?
My dad.

13. WHAT'S YOUR WORST FEAR?
That I might really be unlovable.

14. WHAT KIND OF HAIR/EYE COLOR DO YOU LIKE ON THE OPPOSITE SEX?
Dark hair, blue eyes.

15. WHERE CAN YOU SEE YOURSELF BEING PROPOSED TO AT?
I have no idea, but the next time it happens, I hope it's not during a football game!

16. COFFEE OR ENERGY DRINK?
Diet Coke or Tea.

17. FAVORITE PIZZA TOPPING?
Buffalo mozzarella.

18. IF YOU COULD EAT ANYTHING RIGHT NOW, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
Something sugary.

19. FAVORITE COLOR OF ALL TIME?
Unequivocally, black.

20. HAVE YOU EVER EATEN A GOLDFISH?
No, eew.

21. WHAT WAS THE FIRST MEANINGFUL GIFT YOU'VE EVER RECEIVED?
Probably the toy lamb I got from my grandfather when I was a baby, since it was the only thing he ever gave to me. But in that regard, the gift itself was not particularly meaningful, it was the circumstance of the gift.

22. DO YOU HAVE A CRUSH?
To the extent that the word "crush" implies unrequited, then no, not this minute.

23. ARE YOU DOUBLE JOINTED?
No, but I am very flexible.

24. FAVORITE CLOTHING BRAND?
I don't really have a favorite brand. I have a favorite store -- Anthropologie.

25. WHO IS YOUR FAV FEMALE/MALE CELEBRITY?
Tina Fey and Robert Downey, Jr.

26. DO YOU HAVE A PET RIGHT NOW?
Nope.

27. WHAT KIND IS IT?

28. WOULD YOU FALL IN LOVE KNOWING THAT THE PERSON IS LEAVING?
Probably not. I'm generally more guarded than that.

29. WHEN DID YOU LAST SING TO YOURSELF OR TO SOMEONE ELSE?
In the car yesterday.

30. SAY A NUMBER FROM ONE TO A HUNDRED:
11.

31. BLONDES, BRUNETTES OR RED HEADS?
Brunettes.

32. FAVORITE QUOTE?
"If to do were as easy as to know what were good to do, chapels had been churches and poor men's cottages princes' palaces." Wm. Shakespeare.

33. FAVORITE PLACE?
Bed.

34. HAVE YOU BEEN OUT OF THE USA?
Yes.

35. YOUR WEAKNESSES?
Bad knees. Inability to reach things on the top shelf. Failing to live in the moment.

36. MET ANYONE FAMOUS?
Yes.

37. FIRST JOB?
Babysitting.

38. EVER DONE A PRANK CALL?
Yes.

39. DO YOU THINK EVERYONE OUT THERE HAS A SOUL MATE?
Yes. Maybe more than one.

40. WHAT WERE YOU DOING BEFORE YOU FILLED THIS OUT?
Watching The Daily Show.

41. HAVE YOU EVER HAD SURGERY?
Yes, out-patient.

42. WHAT DO YOU GET COMPLIMENTED ABOUT MOST?
My eyes.

43. HAVE YOU EVER HAD BRACES?
No.

44. WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY?
I'm sure I'll think of something by November.

45. HOW MANY KIDS DO YOU WANT AND THEIR NAMES?
I would like to have at least one so that I can name her after my mom.

46. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE?
two of my great-grandmothers, but only in Hebrew.

47. WHAT IS THE BIGGEST TURN OFF OF THE OPPOSITE SEX?
I have three -- lack of intelligence, lack of humor, poor grammar.

48. WHAT IS ONE THING YOU LIKED ABOUT HIGH SCHOOL?
Writing classes.

49. WHAT KIND OF SHAMPOO DO YOU USE?
Aveda Shampure.

50. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING?
Yes.

51. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT?
Very rare roast beef.

53. ARE YOU A JEALOUS PERSON?
Not particularly.

54. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON, WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU?
Totally.

55. DO YOU AGREE WITH FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS?
Yeah, as long as both parties understand what's going on.

56. DO LOOKS MATTER?
Initially, yes -- but the degree of relevance declines over time.

57. HOW DO YOU RELEASE ANGER?
Sarcasm and the occasional passive-aggression.

58. WOULD YOU EVER LIKE TO BE FAMOUS/A CELEBRITY? IF SO, IN WHAT WAY?
Sometimes. But only for the shoes.

59. WHAT'S YOUR MAIN GOAL IN LIFE?
Happiness, whatever that means.

60. WHAT WAS YOUR FAVORITE TOY AS A CHILD?
Dolls.

61. HOW MANY NUMBERS ARE IN YOUR CELL PHONE?
A lot, since the iPhone syncs with my address book.

62. WERE YOU A FAN OF BARNEY AS A LITTLE KID?
Alas, I am too old to have grown up with the silly purple dinosaur!

63. DO YOU USE SARCASM?
Yes. I'm afraid that it is my natural state.

64. MASHED POTATOES OR MACARONI AND CHEESE?
Mac and Cheese.

65. WHAT DO YOU LOOK FOR IN A GUY/GIRL?
Sense of humor. Tolerance of me. And chemistry.

66. WHAT ARE YOUR NICKNAMES?
D.

67. FAVORITE SUPER POWER?
Seeing the future.

68. WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE TV SHOW?
Lost.

69. WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH YOUR ENEMIES?
Torture them.

70. WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM FLAVOR?
Coffee Heath Bar Crunch.

71. DO YOU HAVE ALL YOUR FINGERS AND TOES?
Yes.

72. DO YOU HAVE A COMPUTER IN YOUR ROOM?
If I bring it in there.

73. PLANS FOR TONIGHT?
Sleep.

74. WHERE DO YOU WANT TO LIVE WHEN YOU ARE OLDER?
The South of France.

75. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS?
If it makes them happy.

76. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO?
Stephen Colbert interviewing David Byrne from the Talking Heads. Crazy!

77. LAST THING YOU DRANK?
Diet Coke.

78. LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE?
My Nana.

79. THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE IN THE OPPOSITE SEX?
Eye color.

80. WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO IN YOUR SPARE TIME?
Sleep, read, go to movies, watch tv, hang out with my friends.

81. FAVORITE THING TO HATE?
My situation.

82. FAVORITE SEASON OF THE YEAR?
Baseball season!

83. WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE TYPE OF CANDY?
Peanut M&Ms.

84. HAVE YOU EVER REALLY AND TRULY HAD A BEST FRIEND?
Best friend, worst enemy, same person: My sister.

85. WHAT IS YOUR HAIR COLOR?
Brown.

86. EYE COLOR?
green/blue/gray

87. SHOE SIZE?
6.5 or 7.

88. FAVORITE FAST FOOD PLACE?
Chick-fil-A

89. FAVORITE RESTAURANT?
Ray's the Steaks.

90. DO YOU LIKE SUSHI?
Yes, but I always eat too much.

91. WATCH TV TODAY?
Right now, as a matter of fact.

92. FAVORITE DAY OF THE YEAR?
Opening Day!

93. PLAY ANY MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS?
Piano. A little guitar.

94. REPUBLICAN OR DEMOCRAT?
Democrat.

95. KISSES OR HUGS?
Both, hopefully.

96. RELATIONSHIPS OR ONE NIGHT STANDS?
Relationships.

97. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU BOUGHT?
Diet Coke.

98. WOULD YOU EVER BE A HOUSEWIFE?
Yes, but it would probably drive me crazy.

99. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING?
Just finished All the King's Men. Will start a new book tomorrow.

100. DESCRIBE YOUR LOVE LIFE!
Interesting. Complicated. Impossible to explain.


Saturday, February 28, 2009

Learning to live in the moment

I know I have some tendencies that are very “Type A.” I like answers, concrete details. I like order and organization. I like rules and laws. I like maps and taking the most direct route. I like having a plan.

On the other hand, I am the least “Type A” person in the world. I am not particularly aggressive. I am non-confrontational. I am willing to go along with the flow on most things. I think I am pretty laid back.

My brother and sister would probably say that I am bossy. And when we were younger, I certainly did my share of oldest sister bossing. But in my real life, my adult life, I try to avoid telling anyone what to do -- although, admittedly, it's mostly because I detest being told what to do by others.

It might seem like these two sides of my personality would be contradictory, but I don’t think so: I go along with the flow until I can’t possibly do it anymore. Or, as I said to someone the other day, I reserve my right, as a woman, to change my mind. He thought that was “cute,” but I was dead serious when I said it.

Anyway, these tendencies are on my mind lately as I’m trying more and more to adjust to being happy in the moment, with the way things are -- without necessarily needing rules or definitions or limitations. It’s definitely an adjustment.



Thursday, February 26, 2009

BBC Book List Meme

The BBC believes most people will have only read 6 of the 100 books here. How do your reading habits stack up?

Instructions: Look at the list and put an 'X' after those you have read.

1. Pride and Prejudice - Jane Austen ()
2. The Lord of the Rings - JRR Tolkien (X)
3. Jane Eyre - Charlotte Bronte (X)
4. Harry Potter series - JK Rowling (X)
5. To Kill a Mockingbird - Harper Lee (X)
6. The Bible (x) (Most of it, anyway.)
7. Wuthering Heights - Emily Bronte (X)
8. Nineteen Eighty Four - George Orwell (X)
9. His Dark Materials - Philip Pullman ()
10. Great Expectations - Charles Dickens ()
11. Little Women - Louisa M Alcott (X)
12. Tess of the D’Urbervilles - Thomas Hardy (X)
13. Catch 22 - Joseph Heller (X)
14. Complete Works of Shakespeare (X)
15. Rebecca - Daphne Du Maurier (X)
16. The Hobbit - JRR Tolkien (X)
17. Birdsong - Sebastian Faulk ( )
18. Catcher in the Rye - JD Salinger (X)
19. The Time Traveller’s Wife - Audrey Niffenegger (X)
20. Middlemarch - George Eliot ( )
21. Gone With The Wind - Margaret Mitchell (X)
22. The Great Gatsby - F Scott Fitzgerald (X)
23. Bleak House - Charles Dickens ()
24. War and Peace - Leo Tolstoy ()
25. The Hitch Hiker’s Guide to the Galaxy - Douglas Adams (X)
26. Brideshead Revisited - Evelyn Waugh (X)
27. Crime and Punishment - Fyodor Dostoyevsky (X)
28. Grapes of Wrath - John Steinbeck (X)
29. Alice in Wonderland - Lewis Carroll (X)
30. The Wind in the Willows - Kenneth Grahame ()
31. Anna Karenina - Leo Tolstoy ( )
32. David Copperfield - Charles Dickens ( )
33. Chronicles of Narnia - CS Lewis ()
34. Emma - Jane Austen ()
35. Persuasion - Jane Austen ()
36. The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe - CS Lewis (X) (doesn't 33 cover this?)
37. The Kite Runner - Khaled Hosseini - (X)
38. Captain Corelli’s Mandolin - Louis De Bernieres ( )
39. Memoirs of a Geisha - Arthur Golden ()
40. Winnie the Pooh - AA Milne (X)
41. Animal Farm - George Orwell (X)
42. The Da Vinci Code - Dan Brown (X)
43. One Hundred Years of Solitude - Gabriel Garcia Marquez (X)
44. A Prayer for Owen Meany - John Irving ( )
45. The Woman in White - Wilkie Collins ( )
46. Anne of Green Gables - LM Montgomery (X) (and all the sequels too.)
47. Far From The Madding Crowd - Thomas Hardy ( )
48. The Handmaid’s Tale - Margaret Atwood (X) (All women should read this book!)
49. Lord of the Flies - William Golding (X)
50. Atonement - Ian McEwan (X)
51. Life of Pi - Yann Martel (X)
52. Dune - Frank Herbert ()
53. Cold Comfort Farm - Stella Gibbons ()
54. Sense and Sensibility - Jane Austen ()
55. A Suitable Boy - Vikram Seth ()
56. The Shadow of the Wind - Carlos Ruiz Zafon ()
57. A Tale Of Two Cities - Charles Dickens ()
58. Brave New World - Aldous Huxley ()
59. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time - Mark Haddon ()
60. Love In The Time Of Cholera - Gabriel Garcia Marquez (X)
61. Of Mice and Men - John Steinbeck (X)
62. Lolita - Vladimir Nabokov (X)
63. The Secret History - Donna Tartt ( )
64. The Lovely Bones - Alice Sebold ()
65. Count of Monte Cristo - Alexandre Dumas (X)
66. On The Road - Jack Kerouac (X)
67. Jude the Obscure - Thomas Hardy ()
68. Bridget Jones’s Diary - Helen Fielding (X)
69. Midnight’s Children - Salman Rushdie (X)
70. Moby Dick - Herman Melville (X)
71. Oliver Twist - Charles Dickens (X)
72. Dracula - Bram Stoker (X)
73. The Secret Garden - Frances Hodgson Burnett (X)
74. Notes From A Small Island - Bill Bryson ()
75. Ulysses - James Joyce () (Started it three times, though.)
76. The Inferno - Dante (X)
77. Swallows and Amazons - Arthur Ransome ()
78. Germinal - Emile Zola ()
79. Vanity Fair - William Makepeace Thackeray ()
80. Possession - AS Byatt ()
81. A Christmas Carol - Charles Dickens (X)
82. Cloud Atlas - David Mitchell ()
83. The Color Purple - Alice Walker ()
84. The Remains of the Day - Kazuo Ishiguro ()
85. Madame Bovary - Gustave Flaubert ()
86. A Fine Balance - Rohinton Mistry ()
87. Charlotte’s Web - EB White (X) (Yet, as much as I love this book, it's not nearly as dear to me as his style manual.)
88. The Five People You Meet In Heaven - Mitch Albom ()
89. Adventures of Sherlock Holmes - Sir Arthur Conan Doyle () (do some count?)
90. The Faraway Tree Collection - Enid Blyton ()
91. Heart of Darkness - Joseph Conrad (X)
92. The Little Prince - Antoine De Saint-Exupery (X)
93. The Wasp Factory - Iain Banks ()
94. Watership Down - Richard Adams ()
95. A Confederacy of Dunces - John Kennedy Toole ()
96. A Town Like Alice - Nevil Shute ()
97. The Three Musketeers - Alexandre Dumas (X)
98. Hamlet - William Shakespeare (X)
99. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory - Roald Dahl (X)
100. Les Miserables - Victor Hugo ()

I count 52. I can do better.



Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Bucket List Meme

Place an X by all the things you've done and remove the X from the ones you have not, then send it to your friends (including me).


THINGS YOU HAVE DONE DURING YOUR LIFETIME:
(X) Gone on a blind date
(X) Skipped school
(X) Watched someone die
( ) Been to Canada
( ) Been to Mexico
(X) Been to Florida
( ) Been to Hawaii
(X) Been on a plane
( ) Been on a helicopter
(X) Gotten lost
(X) Visited Washington, DC
(X) Swam in the ocean
(X) Cried yourself to sleep-
(X) Played cops and robbers
(X) Recently colored with crayons
(X) Sang Karaoke
(X) Paid for a meal with coins only
( ) Been to the top of the St. Louis Arch
(X) Done something you told yourself you wouldn't.
(X) Made prank phone calls
(X) Been down Bourbon Street in New Orleans
(X) Laughed until some kind of beverage came out of your nose
(X) Caught a snowflake on your tongue
(X) Danced in the rain
(X) Written a letter to Santa
(X) Kissed under the mistletoe
(X) Watched the sunrise with someone
(X) Blown bubbles
(X) Gone ice-skating
(X) Gone to the movies
( ) Been deep sea fishing
( ) Driven across the United States
( ) Been in a hot air balloon
( ) Been sky diving
( ) Gone snowmobiling
(X) Lived in more than one country
(X) Lived in more than one State/Province
(X) Admired the stars while listening to the crickets
(X) Wished upon a falling star
( ) Enjoyed the beauty of Old Faithful Geyser
( ) Visited the Statue of Liberty
( ) Gone to the top of Seattle Space Needle
(X) Been on a cruise
(X) Traveled by train
( ) Traveled by motorcycle
(X) Been horse back riding
( ) Hiked through a slot canyon
(X) Ridden on a San Francisco CABLE CAR
(X) Been to Disneyland or Disney World
( ) Truly believe in the power of prayer
( ) Hiked through a rain forest
( ) Gone whale-watching
( ) Been to Niagara Falls
( ) Ridden on an elephant
( ) Swam with dolphins
( ) Gone to the Olympics
( ) Walked on the Great Wall of China
( ) Witnessed a glacier calf
(X) Gone White Water Rafting
( ) Been spinnaker flying
( ) Been water-skiing(or tried to)
( ) Been snow-skiing/snowboarding
(X) Been to Westminster Abbey
(X) Been to the Louvre / Prado
( ) Swam in the Mediterranean
(X) Been to a Major League Baseball game
(X) Been to a National Football League game
(X) Been to National Hockey League game




Saturday, February 21, 2009

Google Madness!

Rules of the Google Game: Go to Google and type in quotation marks your name and then "likes to" (ex. "Steve likes to"). Type in the first ten things that come up and re-post in your own note (or if you are smart, copy and past them!). You must tag the person that sent this to you.

  1. Dara likes to go places and see things.
  2. Dara likes to know about how Marty's Dad kills there food.
  3. Dara likes to go shopping during off hours and is trying to talk to media in order to get ahead professionally.
  4. Dara likes to crochet, knit, carve wood, raise Orchids as well as African Violets, and excels at breeding a better rabbit.
  5. When she's not writing code, Dara likes to decode the messages of her teenage stepdaughter, and her two cats, Izabella Marie and a bad kitty who must remain anonymous.
  6. Dara likes to practice yoga.
  7. Dara likes to throw his clothes on his bedroom floor.
  8. I mean dara likes to party u know.
  9. Dara and I also have a website where Dara likes to put photos up, plus I have a Flickr page, and I publish news stories I find interesting via Google Reader.
  10. I have mentioned before how Dara likes to thieve the cat biscuits out of the pantry.





Friday, February 20, 2009

Observation #3

If you go to a moderately-sized, reasonably-priced restaurant in a relatively busy part of the city on a Friday night at 6:00, and you are practically the only people in the restaurant, there is a high probability that the food is going to stink.


Thursday, February 19, 2009

40 Questions

Here are the rules: post this list replacing my answers with yours. Tag a few folks to do the same thing. Or don't.

If I tagged YOU, it's because I want to know more about YOU!

1. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE?
Only in Hebrew. And I am one of those rare individuals whose Hebrew name has absolutely nothing to do with her English name.

2. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED?
In the middle of the orange line delay this morning. Then I started swearing.

Seriously, I know with certainty that I cried on February 7, when I posted about the notebook I wrote when my mom died.

3. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING?
Yes.

4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT?
Super-rare roast beef.

5. DO YOU HAVE KIDS?
No, but I'll have a nephew in about 7 weeks.

6. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON, WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU?
Yes, because I am awesome -- super awesome. And cute too! And modest, very very modest.

7. DO YOU USE SARCASM?
I'm stealing from Brenda here: "If 'use' is another way to say 'way of life,' then yes."

8. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS?
Yes.

9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP?
No, but I'll go whitewater rafting anytime anyone wants.

10. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL?
Either Peanut Butter Cap'n Crunch or Special K, depending on whether I'm being Good Dara or Bad Dara.

11. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF?
I am rarely wearing shoes with laces -- generally only to the gym or when I put on the Converse on a weekend. But I don't recall that I do, or that I tie them when I put them back on either. I think I only tie them when they happen to come untied.

12. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM?
Coffee Heath Bar Crunch, Jamoca Almond Fudge, or Green Tea.

13. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE?
Whether they can keep up. ('Cause the things in my head move at the speed of light, people.)

And if they're a woman, I'll notice if they are wearing cute shoes.

14. RED OR PINK?
Neither -- Black. But I do have a red sweater from Banana Republic that I love.

15. WHAT IS YOUR LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF?
The last bit of weight that I would like to lose. Well, that and the fact that I still care what people think about me WAY too much.

16. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST?
My mother. Every. Single. Day.

17. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO COMPLETE THIS LIST?
Sure. I like learning my friends' deep dark secrets.

18. WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING?
Black pants (Gap). Black patent leather shoes (Cole Haan).

19. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW?
The sound of the space heater cranked up to 75.

20. IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE?
Green-blue or Blue-green, I forget which one I like best. No, I take it back: Black.

21. FAVORITE SMELLS?
The ocean. Fresh bread. Jasmine.

22. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE?
Voicemail -- all I do lately is email and text. Need to call my dad back, though.

Oh wait, I did talk to someone yesterday. ;)

23. DO YOU LIKE THE PERSON WHO SENT THIS TO YOU?
Yup.

24. FAVORITE SPORTS TO WATCH?
Football. Baseball. Hockey. College Basketball.

25. HAIR COLOR?
Brown.

26. EYE COLOR?
Green-blue or blue-green.

27. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS?
Some days, just not today.

28. FAVORITE FOOD?
Anything sweet.

29. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS?
Happy endings.

30. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED?
In the theater? Milk. On DVD? The Assassination of Jesse James by the Coward Robert Ford.

31. SUMMER OR WINTER?
Summer.

32. HUGS OR KISSES?
Depends on the day. Today? Hugs.

33. MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND?
I have no idea. I don't know if I'm even going to tag anyone.

34. LEAST LIKELY TO RESPOND?
See above.

35. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING NOW?
All the King's Men, by Robert Penn Warren. Yay bookclub!

36. WHAT IS ON YOUR MOUSE PAD?
Dust. Oh, and a mouse.

37. WHAT DID YOU WATCH ON TV LAST NIGHT?
Lost, although it was technically this morning.

38. ROLLING STONES OR BEATLES?
Beatles, in a close race. Photo finish.

39. WHAT IS THE FARTHEST YOU HAVE BEEN FROM HOME?
Israel.

40. WHERE WERE YOU BORN?
Manhattan.


Monday, February 16, 2009

My darling clementines

For a girl who spent a good chunk of her life in Florida, I am surprisingly anti-citrus. (And don't get me started on orange juice -- unless it's fresh squeezed, I can barely tolerate it.) There are pretty much only two kinds of citrus fruit that I bother with -- honeybell (or minneola) tangelos, and clementines. I'm not entirely sure why these are it for me, but it might have something to do with sentiment: My grandfather used to ship the former to me as a Hanukkah present, and the latter were the kind that my mother preferred when filling up Christmas stockings.

Anyway, when I went to Morocco two years ago, the food was generally average, except for one thing: the little tiny oranges that they put out at the hotel breakfast buffets. These oranges were consistently exceptional -- so consistently that I would grab two or three of them and snack on them throughout the day.

So today, while doing a bit of grocery shopping in Whole Foods, I noticed this:



To you, it might look like an ordinary run of the mill box of clementines. But to me, it's a yummy little reminder of North Africa.


Saturday, February 07, 2009

Postscript

A year later, I almost feel like the girl who wrote that notebook was a stranger. I mean, I know that it was me, and I understand how I was feeling at the time -- distraught -- but it somehow seems so long ago and far away and foreign.

Earlier today, I read something in Midnight's Children that made me catch my breath: "A death makes the living see themselves too clearly; after they have been in its presence, they become exaggerated."

I think I know what Sir Rushdie meant.

No one should lose a parent at 32 -- or 22, or 12, or 2 for that matter, but the point remains the same. Parents should live long lives, be around for their childrens' weddings, the birth of their grandchildren, and those grandchildren's graduations and weddings. From an observer's perspective, any deviation from this norm seems punitive to those who are left behind. But from the inside it's a baptism by fire: You go through something so intense, so difficult, that you have no choice but to walk out the other side a different person.

Two months ago, I was reflecting on that very phenomenon, and at the time, it seemed like not all of my changes since my mother's death were for the better. But that wasn't the whole story. The biggest change -- the one that I didn't write about -- is that I want things to be different -- better. I want to have grown from my experience, to have learned something along the way, to become a better person -- a better Dara.

I think I have been successful in this first year -- I've become healthier, I traveled, I bought a house, I applied for a promotion at work. I started thinking about the things that were important to me, and removing the extraneous things from my life. I've tried to be more positive, more optimistic. I even managed to be vulnerable -- allowing myself to really fall for someone for the first time in a while -- and got hurt along the way. And yet, even after the abysmal failures, I somehow managed to pick myself up, dust myself off, and keep moving forward towards that goal.

Still, the most valuable lesson that I learned is that love is limitless but time is precious. How that translates into my life or your lives I have yet to figure out. But here's what I think: People who say that love is not the most important thing are dead wrong. In the end, love is the only thing that really matters.

And I say I'm not a romantic.


The History of Dara, Part 8 (Crazy Notebook Edition)

I know I said I'm done blogging, but there are some things that still need to be written. Especially today, the one year anniversary of my mother's death.

I've been sitting here reading the notebook I scrawled in on the airplane down to Florida-- when I was trying to keep from pacing up and down the aisle looking like a terrorist -- and I am astounded by some of the things that I wrote.

This time I brought a notebook on the plane, mostly out of fear of being alone with my thoughts for too many hours. I don't have any idea what I'm doing. I'm like a zombie. A robot. A zombie-robot.

She would have thought that was funny. She always found my strangeness funny. And I always obliged because I didn't care if she was laughing with me or at me. As long as she was laughing.

***


Crying on a plane is so not me. I hope no one sees. And if they do, I hope they just think I'm sick.

***


Right now I think God has a sick sense of humor.

***


I was born on a Thursday. Today is Thursday. 32 times 52 is 1664. So, since it's been about 10 weeks since my birthday, I've had my mother for 1675 or so Thursdays. Not enough.*

***


I think I've been checking my watch every three minutes. God, I can't wait for this flight to be over. Everyone here is either older than my mom or has a baby. One's been screaming since fifteen minutes before we took off.

Need to be off the plane ASAP. Have about an hour to go. Keep trying not to think, not to cry, but it's not like there's a switch I can turn on and off.

I brought a book, but can't bring myself to read, it would just be a waste. I wish I could sleep or even just relax. But my mind's going about a thousand miles a minute. Wish the plane could keep up.

***


My mom is my designated beneficiary on all my insurance and pension and stuff. I remember telling her once that if anything happened to me, she'd be a very rich lady and wouldn't need to share it with Dad. She told me that I was being horrible and that she would share with him.

I guess I need to change all those forms. Which sucks. On so many levels.

***


I think, in retrospect, buying an airplane-proof pen was a fantastic idea. Should have bought a notebook with lines, though. Writing on a plane is hard enough, with all the jolts and jostles of varying degrees. My handwriting is all over the place. But at least it's legible. It looks like hers.

***


I feel bad for my future theoretical children.

***


Not ten minutes ago, I wrote about how much I want this flight to be over. Then I realized that as soon as I get off the plane and see my dad, my sister, or my Nana -- or any combination thereof -- I'm going to burst into tears, and I don't think I'll be able to stop.

My eyes are already brimming over just thinking about it. So now, maybe I don't want this flight to end. Instead, I want to go back in time, to Monday evening, and I want my mother to get herself to the ER the second she started feeling sick, before the infection got so bad.

***


I hope this is not what crazy feels like.

***


fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck

***


I hope no one reads this, ever.

***


I bought this notebook with my mom, the last time I saw her, over Thanksgiving.

I can't remember if it was the day after or the Saturday. Whatever. I can't believe we wasted all that friggin' time on line at the crappy-ass Bealls Outlet so that my dad could buy $3 pants and I could get a notebook with a fancy cover for a quarter.

***


Who's going to take care of my dad and my Nana?

***


She wasn't even eligible for Social Security.

***


I can't believe the last conversation I had with her was about the superbowl and the Catherine Malandrino dress.

This is all so fucked up.

***


I am too young for this. My parents had their mothers around well into their sixties. I am only 32. I've been cheated of at least 30 years.

***


Guess she managed to keep me from voting for Obama in the primary after all.

***


In the car on the way back from the airport, I kept saying "Fucking fuck fuck fuck!" It's like stress-induced Tourette's syndrome.

I broke down for a minute in the bank vault with my Nana. We were getting info about the cemetery so my mom can be buried near her father -- my Pop. Nana told me how my dad'll be buried there too, now -- and I lost it. Two grandparents and one parent in 7 months is enough. More than enough, really.

***


I talked to my best friend from high school tonight. She was a religion major in college but couldn't really say anything to help me. I told her how my Nana broke down in the car and started to curse God. (At least she believes enough to curse something!)

The conversation was weird, but necessary. How does someone you've known for more than half your life help you get over this?

She just about lost it too when I pointed out that my brother's bar mitzvah was exactly 15 years from next weekend. How did we get so old and our lives get so screwed up?

***


Just praying that I can manage to get some sleep. This house is fucking weird without her in it.

My dad is a zombie-robot too. It's clearly genetic.

How the fuck is this my life?

FUCK!

I am still hoping that this is some kind of fucked-up fever-induced nightmare -- and that I'll wake up in the morning with everything back to normal.

***


Mom, I'm sorry about the ear piercing. And the belly button. And the tattoo.

I'm sorry about what a crappy pre-teen I was.

I'm sorry about lying about drinking and sex.

I'm sorry I moved so far away.

I'm sorry I wasn't here.

I love you. You've always been my best friend and biggest supporter and I am so sorry that I didn't tell you that often enough.

I don't know how to be without you.

I don't know how I'm going to make it through the rest of my days without being able to call you just to hear your voice, or to relate something silly.

When I make good decisions, it's always been because of your influence and support. I don't know how I'll function without that.

I am so lost already.

***


I only freaked out two more times today. Once was when my dad handed me my mom's rings. I just lost it. And honestly, I didn't mean to do it in front of him.

The second was in my car with Nana, when she said something and it brought up the fact that my mother will never see my kids, her grandkids.

She will not be at my wedding. It is all so very backwards.

My dad lost it a little too. He says he has no focus anymore. I am so worried about him having to be here, alone, when we all have to leave.

I can't believe that my mom will never ever make Thanksgiving dinner again.

Everything is so upside-down and backwards. It's not right.

My dad keeps saying that over and over again. That and the fact that it all happened so quickly.

I don't know what to do. It's like I'm living someone else's nightmare right now.

***


I told my brother and dad about this notebook, how I spent the entire flight writing, and how half of it was the word "fuck."

My brother said that the people next to me probably thought I was schizophrenic. I guess that's better than reporting my behavior to the air marshal.

I keep telling everyone that I'm currently held together with Scotch tape and rubber bands. We'll see how that holds up when we meet with the Rabbi tomorrow.

***


My mother told me what to do all the time. The small things, anyway -- clean your room, make your bed, don't leave dishes in the sink, that sort of stuff. She never really told me what to do, though. She would always listen and help me decide what to do and encouraged me to follow my instincts. And then, when I made whatever decision, she would tell me how proud she was of me. Like when I decided to take less money to do what I wanted to do. She was proud of the level of thought that I had given it -- but mostly she was proud of it as an expression of my priorities -- how it was better to be happy than to make more money. She took special pride in that one, even if it meant that I wasn't going to buy her any more designer handbags. Secretly, though, she was happy because she knew I'd be able to take more vacation. In theory, anyway.

***


My mother had the most beautiful hands.

My mother had the most beautiful laugh.

My mother's eyes were somewhere between sky blue and a cloudy sky. On the way back to the house from the airport, the northeast corner of the sky was the exact same color as her eyes.

These are things I hope I never forget.





*It was actually exactly 1680 Thursdays, but who needs to get bogged down in the details?


Friday, January 30, 2009

Twenty-five things

(cross-posted from Facebook.)

Rules: Once you have been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged, you have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, that means I want to know more about you.

To do this, go to the "notes" tab on your homepage. Paste these instructions in the body of the note, type your 25 random things, and then tag 25 people(in the right hand corner of this app). Then click "publish".

  1. Coming up with twenty-five things that I did not already use in prior lists (100 Things About Me, Eight Things, Six Weird Things About Me, and the A-to-Z Quiz) was more challenging than I expected.
  2. In addition to having a photographic memory, I have a fantastic memory for trivial details. For example, if you tell me the name of a movie, I can pretty much tell you who I saw it with and in what theater. If someone tells me their favorite flower or favorite food, I will remember it. I even remember the birthdays of people that I haven't spoken to since high school.
  3. Even though I have all my music on my hard drive -- and backed up -- I still prefer CDs. I like reading the liner notes.
  4. My mother died on 2/7. My birthday is on the 27th. My father's birthday is on the 27th. And yet, I know that this is all mere coincidence.
  5. I love my dad, but I don't think I will ever, ever forgive him for making me call my brother to tell him that our mom had died.
  6. I think the person who understands me the most is my brother, but he would probably deny it.
  7. My sister and I sound alike. And we call each other "Pookie" (or the shortened version -- "Pook") in a way that is meant to be ironic, but is mostly just silly.
  8. I do not cry in front of other people. If I feel my eyes filling with tears, I will try to stop them or I will leave the room.
  9. I have a great respect for rules and order and laws. I prefer not to jaywalk. I don't cheat, ever. But I do drive over the speed limit, all the time -- I prefer to think of it as a suggestion.
  10. I have a love-hate relationship with the telephone. Still, I am a late adopter of the text message. I prefer email. Or even the instant message.
  11. I feel guilty that my hatred of the telephone causes me to not be as involved in my friends' lives as I could otherwise be. Of course, I also think that if people really wanted to hang out with me, they could call or send me an email too.
  12. Despite my phone-hate, I think I may be addicted to my iPhone.
  13. I have been knitting the same ugly scarf for well over a year.
  14. My aunt bought me "Gone With the Wind" for my twelfth birthday, and I stayed up all night reading it.
  15. I would refer to my guest room as "the library" if it didn't sound so pretentious.
  16. I have an incurable wanderlust. There is not a single day that I don't think about going somewhere on vacation. Even on the best of days, I spend at least a couple minutes thinking about places and things that I would like to go see.
  17. It takes a lot for me to trust people deeply. Still, I get my heart broken more than I should.
  18. I am not a romantic. I think that people are generally loveable and that it's easy to find someone you want to spend time with. I think that the hardest part is in the decision to stay and try to make it work.
  19. I think that the most profound thing I ever wrote was "A positive side effect of having experienced actual tragedy is that it makes you better able to distinguish between the real thing and what is, for lack of a better term, just a bummer."
  20. Even though I have a lot of issues with my family and my childhood, and a lot of questions about my relationships with various members thereof, I wouldn't trade my family or those experiences for anything. They made me who I am today.
  21. The last time I baked cookies, I did not eat a single one -- but I kept asking everyone (1) if they were good and (2) which ones they liked best.
  22. I have lost approximately 15% of my body weight since roughly this time last year, but I still wear a lot of the same baggy clothing. And 15% isn't quite as much as one would think it might be.
  23. I started writing a novel about two years ago. I have about 1500 words. I'm starting to think that, when all is said and done, it's going to be a novella.
  24. I love babies and small children. I think they are so much funnier and more honest and more imaginative than poor, pathetic adults.
  25. I hate being tagged in memes. And I hate tagging other people. It took three people tagging me for me to respond to this thing. But to keep from inflicting this pain on others, I am only tagging people that I know have already done this one.